How to Use Scaffolding to Get Your Kids to Actually Stop Hitting Once and For All and Other Reasons Scaffolding Works
I’m a special education teacher. One of my job’s is to write individualized goals for each of my students.
For example, one of my students might have a goal to read 150 words correct per minute on a grade level passage.
Let’s say, currently, she is averaging reading 90 words correct per minute.
The next day after writing the fluency goal for my student, I have her come into my class and read a passage. Predictably, she reads about 90 words.
Now imagine if I said, “Stop reading 90 words per minute,” and I continued to say that every time she read around 90 words.
In fact, I would even say, “Stop reading 140 words correct per minute,” if she reaches that 140 word mark because after all 140 words correct per minute is not her goal.
That’s all I did.
Would my student reach her goal? Maybe, eventually down the road (or more likely if she got a better teacher haha).
But, I would imagine it would take a long time to reach her goal, if she ever did. And I would also venture to say that she would probably be pretty discouraged and unmotivated to want to continue.
Now, let’s use a similar example when it comes to parenting.
Currently, we have a child who hits and ultimately our goal is for our child to stop hitting.
Parent: “STOP HITTING!”
Parent: “I TOLD YOU TO STOP HITTING!” Punishes (takes away a toy or puts child in time-out).
Parent: Frustrated 🤦
Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing preschooler. Lauren is a 3x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge, children's book, Henry's Hiccups, and parenting guide Now What? Mindful Checklists for Life's Hard Parenting Moments, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram at @laurenbarrettwrites, and get her free guide on what to do during the middle of a tantrum.
Imagine earning $50 or more for an hour’s worth of work? It’s possible with blogging!
While blogging is just my side hustle at this time to earn extra spending cash, the rates some of these sites pay can be lucrative if you consistently keep at it.
Right now, I typically only write one blog a week. Sometimes, I put it on my own website and other times I pitch other websites.
The overall process only takes 1-3 hours, depending on how in depth the blog is and how much research is required. And if I’m averaging about $100 for these blogs, that rate is excellent for minimum work doing something I enjoy.
I signed up to receive weekly emails from Freedom With Writing. Each week, they break down websites that are accepting pitches that pay from guest bloggers!
Here are 17 websites that I’ve had the most success and ease with earning extra cash blogging. Click on the title of the website to be taken to their How to Write for them page.
They are going to want to see a completed piece of 300 words or more first. Then, they’ll email if it is or isn’t a right fit for their website.
In my experience, they typically respond within a week which is a fast turnaround.
Eventually, I could link my PayPal account and configure their Ad Program and Amazon Program to my blog.
For years, I made cents. But then, all of a sudden that money started compounding, and I would get paid $50, $75, $90 a month.
The money isn’t consistent (But I also don’t blog on the site consistently), but it’s nice to get that surprise $50+ paycheck several months a year.
Here’s how it works:
- Set up a Hubpage account.
- Write a blog on anything, except personal essays that read like a diary entry.
- Your story will get featured on the Hubpage site.
- Then, you have the option of submitting your blog to one of Hubpages subsidiary sites OR they’ll reach out to you recommending your blog for a specific site.
- That is what you want! Once your blog goes to one of their bigger sites, more views and more money will start coming in.
Rate: You can’t cash out until you reach $50 for a month.
I would repost a lot of my old blogs onto the site (They allow repurposing blogs), but didn’t have much luck besides literally like 10 cents a month.
Then, I looked more into it and, just like Hubpages, I can submit a blog to one of their bigger sites which will help your blog get more views.
I was accepted to Better Humans and have two blogs on that site which, as of now, are earning me around $10 a month.
Not much, but it’s something. And it’s also something I can look into getting more serious about.
Rate: Will vary based on views
However, PopSugar is a big named site and blogging for them can lead to other opportunities. When I blogged for them, Elise Tate, influencer and wife of NFL star Golden Tate, and I connected. This led to some business opportunities, but it wasn’t that profitable, and promoting other people’s works wasn’t what I wanted to do.
But after a while, for me money was more important than clout. LOL.
However, here’s how I started making money…
I sent them an article I wrote and after weeks (actually I think it might have been months), they emailed me back saying that they liked my article and invited me to join their Voices Community.
Once in the community, I could pitch my own ideas, or I could accept pitches they suggested to me. They also sent out a monthly guide of what they wanted to see that month.
Most of my pitches got accepted, and I enjoyed writing for them for the time-being.
You submit a finished piece to their website, and they get back to you pretty quickly if the piece is a right fit for their website.
Once accepted, you have no more work to do. They handle the rest.
I enjoy writing for them.
Rate: Rates are based on views. I got to the $60 threshold once, but I’m pretty sure that was because my dad just clicked on the piece that many times. It’s hard to earn a lot of views because they put out a lot of pieces a day on their social media, so I feel as if your piece never gains a lot of traction unless you have a large social media following, you have parents who are willing to continuously click on it, or you join one of those Blogging Facebook groups where you can exchange favors.
- 0-999 views: $10
- 1K – 1,999K views: $20
- 2K – 2,999K views: $30
- 3K-3,999K views: $60
- 4K+ views: $100
I shared with them a story of how I recovered from insomnia, and they really liked it.
I went through two rounds of edits, and the final copy will be published in May.
The submission process was easy.
I shared with them my full essay, and they would respond back in a timely manner with their interest.
After that I would go through 1-2 rounds of edit which were fairly simple. The editor would make suggestions, and I would approve.
A Fine Parent accepts articles on parenting, especially positive strategies that work.
I’ve written about building resilience, shy kids, greenlight strategies, and handling tantrums.
She first wants to see your pitch and a workable outline. Once she accepts your article, you’ll share your full post in an editable Google Doc.
I went through one round of edits before the post was published.
Lisa was very easy to work with, and I enjoy her content.
They want you to send a brief pitch first and then once accepted they will work with you to flesh out your article.
10. Chicken Soup
They have call outs throughout the year on various topics. I’ve written twice on the topics of “Me Time” and “Christmas.”
Submit your story online to them, and then they’ll be in touch only if you’ve been accepted.
11. Answers For Me
I’m not sure if they are still taking stories for this series, but according to their website, it looks as if they might still be.
They are seeking original stories on your own personal experience with the education system.
They ask you to either send a pitch or draft.
Rate: Not specified on the website, but I believe I got $100
They want to see a pitch first.
I submitted two articles and went through about one round of edits. Nothing hard.
Rate: The rate is not specified on their site, but I asked and got $75 for both articles.
They accept a wide range of topics from Mom Life to Kids and Relationships.
I wrote a humorous piece about kids activities that look glamorous on Instagram but aren’t in real life.
Rate: I got paid $50
I wrote a piece about Quiet Quitting Instagram.
Send pitches by email.
Rate: Website doesn’t say how much you get paid, but I got $25
I am writing a piece on infertility.
I had to pitch them first and then they sent back to me an agreement and the writer’s guidelines. Based on their writing guidelines, they want two interviews or quotes from expert sources.
Have a pitch? Here’s the email information (Updated 11/27/22):
- Lifestyle topics/sexual health: firstname.lastname@example.org (Hannah), email@example.com (Trent), firstname.lastname@example.org (not sure of name!)
- Men’s health: email@example.com (Mike), firstname.lastname@example.org (Andrew)
- Women’s health: email@example.com (Nicole), firstname.lastname@example.org (Ashley)
17. Family Story Project
They want to see unique stories on the family that are outside of what the traditional family looks like.
Think adoption, biracial families, step families
I love the fact that I can get paid to do something that I love and that it doesn’t feel like work at all.
And I want you to feel the same empowerment when I get paid for my creativity and words.
Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 3x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge, children's book, Henry's Hiccups, and parenting guide Now What? Mindful Checklists for Life's Hard Parenting Moments, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram at @laurenbarrettwrites, and get her free guide on what to do during the middle of a tantrum.
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