After a new mom has a baby, sometimes the baby becomes the center of attention and gets all the gifts. The mom can get forgotten. But if you are wondering how to fill up a new mom’s emotional registry, I have some of the best gifts for a new mom.
An emotional registry is a list of gifts for moms who just had a baby that helps them meet their emotional needs and fill up their cup.
These registry items can include gifts that provide self-care, attention, help, friendship, and a sense of identity to the new mom.
I highly advise you to just give a gift to a new mom instead of asking if she needs anything.
A lot of items on this list aren’t tangible and aren’t for the baby.
In my opinion, the most thoughtful and best gifts to give a mom after she gives birth, are the ones that focus on making her feel like a person again and remind her that she isn’t alone in this thing called motherhood. She has a support time and she has a sense of identity that can be (if she wants) more than mom.
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21 Thoughtful Things to Get for A New Mom After She's Had a Baby to Fill Up Her Emotional Registry
1. Gift Cards to Restaurants
Cooking and eating aren’t a top priority for new parents. While feeding the baby never goes forgotten, a mom feeding herself often does.
Giving birth, breastfeeding, caring for a newborn, and recovering are a lot of work, and a new mom needs fuel and energy to recover.
Gift cards to restaurants are great because chances are she has enough freezer and home cooked meals sitting at home waiting to be eaten. That was the case in my situation.
And while those meals were certainly welcomed and necessary, they can go bad after a while and eventually run out.
Having restaurant gift cards can save new moms (and dads) when they are in a pinch and are too tired to cook or figure out a meal.
2. Food Delivery Services
Likewise, food delivery services, such as Uber Eats, DoorDash,or GrubHub, can come in handy too for new parents when they look into the fridge and realize they have nothing to eat after a long day.
Just make sure that the new parents live in a place that accepts food delivery services.
3. Grocery Pickup
My mother-in-law got this for us after I gave birth to our son, and it was so helpful. She paid for a year of grocery pickup from Harris Teeter.
This gift saves sleep-deprived parents from dragging their little one to the store to shop for groceries. And while getting out to a grocery store is enjoyable every now and then, it’s nice to have the option to do pickup.
4. Meal Delivery Kits
Following in the same category of food, a meal service is a thoughtful gift for new moms after she has had a baby.
Hello Fresh, Blue Apron, EMeals, and many more are all affordable options to gift new parents in order to make their meal prepping quick and easy because taking care of a newborn can be a fulltime job.
5. House Cleaning Service
Keeping a tidy house quickly falls by the wayside for new parents. And if you are like me, a cluttered house means a cluttered mind. A messy house triggered my mental load, and I could quickly spiral if things weren’t neat.
So whether you gift a new mom, a one-time deep cleaning or a few month’s supply, this is a very thoughtful gift to let new parents not to have to worry about always keeping a clean house.
With a new baby comes a whole lot of new stuff. It’s overwhelming. And if a system isn’t developed, it’s easy for a new mom to get stressed out by it all.
Hire her an organizer to come over and straighten it all out and develop a system that works for her.
While I doubt you can land the Home Edit, many cities have organizers that do a pretty good job.
7. Parenting Class
Parenting comes with a lot of new challenges. There is sleep, feeding, discipline, and breastfeeding to name a few.
Give a new mom the gift of a parenting class to navigate through those hard times during parenting.
Search Instagram for a few of my favorites:
8. General Gift Cards
General gift cards to stores like Target, WalMart, or grocery stores are nice to have as a new mom, so she can easily go out and purchase whatever and whenever she needs it.
Visa gift cards work as well!
Offer babysitting services to a new mom. Whether she just needs an hour to run to Target unencumbered or wants to have a date night with her husband, babysitting services won’t go unneeded.
Give her a coupon saying that you will babysit and then let her cash in for when she needs you.
1. Spa Gift Cards
New moms deserve to be pampered after giving birth. Their bodies just spent over 9 months making a baby and then they had to go through labor and delivery.
They need a massage. Or facial. Or both. Get them a spa gift card.
2. At Home Spa
Likewise, you can get new moms at home spa kits complete with nail polish, face masks, bath bombs, aromas, lotions, and foot scrubs.
They can pamper themselves whenever they want without ever having to leave the house.
3. A Nap or Shower
Gifts for new moms don’t have to be elaborate and expensive. Simply, volunteer to come over and give her a break to shower or nap.
Show up to her house (invited of course) and tell her you got the baby and to go do whatever she needs.
4. Baby Yoga Class
I did this with my son when he was a baby, and I loved it. It got me out of the house. It got me moving, breathing, relaxing, and connecting with other moms.
Everyone had a baby who cried at some point, so there was no shame or judgment.
This is a good self-care activity for a new mom after she gives birth.
A mom who just had a baby will crave a night or two alone at some point in the baby’s first years or years to come.
Book her a hotel that is close by, so she doesn’t feel anxious about being far away from the baby if needed. Arrange for babysitting too if her partner can’t do it.
6. Streaming Service
A new mom might be home a lot. And while newborns are cute, they don’t provide much of a companion, and they sleep a lot.
A streaming service would be helpful during those times. Offer to pay for one for a couple months, so she can binge her favorite ones.
In the same vein, I had a lot of time to read after I became a new mom. I really enjoyed it. Gift a new mom after she’s had a baby with books - whether that be a paperback or hardcover book from a book store, a book of the month, a supply from the library, a subscription to Audible, or if she has a kindle, a gift card to Amazon.
1. Sitting With Her
Motherhood can be terribly lonely in this day and age. We don’t live in such close proximity to family and friends as we used to. People are more isolated indoors.
Just coming over to sit and chat with a new mother is a very low-stress, pressure free gift that is priceless.
She will be thankful for the companionship and the adult conversation.
2. Take Her Out to Lunch
Likewise, you can take a new mother out to lunch, so she can have the companionship and adult conversation while getting out of the house to get some fresh air with an extra set of hands to help her with the baby.
Take her lunch at a lowkey, casual establishment in case the baby gets fussy.
3. Mom Groups/Baby and Me Classes
Sign her up for a Mom’s Support Group or a Baby and Me class where she can connect and chat with other mothers.
After I had my son, I did a Baby and Me fitness class and went to breastfeeding support groups. It’s nice to be able to ask questions and meet other moms who are going through what you’re going through too.
SENSE OF IDENTITY GIFTS
A nice journal will help a new mom write down her thoughts and feelings along with what she did each day with the baby.
It will be nice to have that memory looking back.
2. Fair Play
Fair Play is a book written by Eve Rodsky. The book also inspired a card game to play with your partner
Taken straight from Fair Play’s website:
Tired of being the “she-fault” parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family—and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was . . . underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn’t enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it.
The result is Fair Play: a time-and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up domestic responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a figurative card game you play with your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what’s important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinner.
Fair Play can help new moms find their unicorn space and divide the mental load with their partners, so they aren’t so burnt out.
These gifts will help a new mom after she gives birth fill up her emotional registry.
Remember that these gifts can be spread out over a couple months instead of her getting flooded with gifts in the first two weeks and then she has to flounder alone the rest of her baby's first year.
New moms need love and support.