Do you feel completely overwhelmed at the prospect of potty training your kid? Especially potty training boys? I’m sure you heard that potty training boys is more difficult than potty training girls and how to potty train a boy or how to start potty training a boy might be a recurring question you’re asking yourself right now. Potty training is a rite of passage for parents. It is a frequent search in Google with over 63 million results. And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be so daunting as the internet or other people make it out to seem. Sure, at times it isn’t easy and can be, frankly, downright hard, but it doesn’t have to be impossible and such a terrible experience. Take it from me. I potty trained my son and lived to write about it. In this blog, you’ll get a 7 month guide on how I started potty training my son at 2 years old. You’ll get information on the best potty training supplies to buy, the process I used to get my son to go to the bathroom, mistakes I made, tips that worked, and information on pooping. Let’s dive right in. Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy. 
Month 1
*If you don’t want to take this month by month, you can take it week by week*
Potty training for me started long before I even put my son on the potty. I wanted to go into it with a solid plan of action and research on my side. So month 1, I simply read a potty training book and mapped out my plan. For me, I follow The Mom Psychologist on Instagram and really resonate with her parenting style. When I learned that she had written a book, The First-Time Parent’s Guide to Potty Training, I jumped right on it and bought it. After reading it, I had a good idea of how potty training implementation would go, and I charted my steps for each month. For you, you might consider other books, courses, or articles. Either way, use Month 1 to have the knowledge of what you’re going to do. It’s good to do the research, so you can learn if your kids are physiologically and physically ready to use the bathroom. Month 2
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Month 4
This month, we added in videos of potty training. We watched cartoons, songs, and real life clips on YouTube of potty training.
We continued to talk about potty training when it came up in everyday conversation. Like when I or my husband had to use the bathroom.
Once again, the potty remained in my son’s room, and he always had the invitation to use it if he liked.
We continued to talk about potty training when it came up in everyday conversation. Like when I or my husband had to use the bathroom.
Once again, the potty remained in my son’s room, and he always had the invitation to use it if he liked.
Month 5
We were getting closer to the actual days of potty training, but we still weren’t ready yet. During this month, we role-played and helped my son build his confidence with potty training.
I used his stuffed animals and acted like they had to use the bathroom. I acted out the steps of going to the potty by having them get the potty feeling, go to the bathroom, pull down their pants, and go! I used water and raisins to act as pee and poop.
We did lots of role-playing this month to prepare my son for his turn to use the bathroom.
I used his stuffed animals and acted like they had to use the bathroom. I acted out the steps of going to the potty by having them get the potty feeling, go to the bathroom, pull down their pants, and go! I used water and raisins to act as pee and poop.
We did lots of role-playing this month to prepare my son for his turn to use the bathroom.
Month 6
This month was the month that we prepared for the Big Day.
Some key points that we talked about this month:
Some key points that we talked about this month:
- Only you know when you have to use the bathroom.
- How to recognize the feeling of having to go.
- What the Big Day would be like and what we would do.
- Signs associated with potty training to help make the process easier.
Month 7
During this month you want to gather your supplies, which I will list below, and pick three days where you and your partner/spouse do not have a lot of obligations and one of you, if not both, can stay at home for most of the day.
Now, you can feel confident that your son is ready to learn to use the potty!
Now, you can feel confident that your son is ready to learn to use the potty!
Supplies
Before the Big 3 Days gather your supplies…
- Stand alone mini potty
- Seat reducer
- Flushable wipes
- Step stool
- Waterproof mat for the carpet
- Portable potty for car rides
- Easy to remove clothes
- Reward chart
- Reward treat
- Food coloring
- Rubber ducky
- Lots of liquids and foods high in fiber
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The Big Three Days
The day has arrived and your child (and you) might be feeling a ton of emotions. That’s okay!
Validate their feelings and then get started.
Validate their feelings and then get started.
Day 1
On this day, your child goes completely naked from the waist down and you’re not going to leave the house.
Soooo….I suggest you set up some premade activities or be okay with some extra screen time because potty training can make for an endless day.
That’s also why it is nice to have a partner involved in this process today, so the two of you can take turns taking breaks because, trust me, you’re going to need them.
The rules of this day are simple:
Soooo….I suggest you set up some premade activities or be okay with some extra screen time because potty training can make for an endless day.
That’s also why it is nice to have a partner involved in this process today, so the two of you can take turns taking breaks because, trust me, you’re going to need them.
The rules of this day are simple:
- Instruct your child that when they get the “potty feeling” to go on the potty. Make sure the potty is easily accessible.
- When your son goes on the potty, give him a treat right away.
- If they start going on the floor, try to catch them midway and carry them over to the potty. If they finish their peering on the potty, give them a treat right away.
- If they go on the floor, do not yell or shame. Tell them that it’s okay but remind them that the peeing and pooping are for the potty.
- Load them up with liquids and fruits and fiber to give them plenty of opportunities to use the potty.
- Use the gossiping strategy at the end of the day.
- *Extra* Give them a certificate for completing Day 1.
Day 2
This day is exactly the same as Day 1, but you’ll do a 15-20 minute excursion outside. Maybe to the playground or to take a walk around the block.
Day 3
Day 3 is the same as Day 2, but you’re going to add in a longer outside excursion AND you are going to put underwear and loose fitting pants on your boy.
Pro Tips for Potty Training
Here are my best tips for potty training boys (and girls):
1. Put food coloring in the potty
Show your son that you’re putting food coloring in the potty and use this script…
“Look, I put a red drop in the potty. Turn your pee red! Look, your pee is red! What color do you want to make your pee next time?”
2. The Diaper Steps for Peeing and Pooping
If you have kids who scream for their diapers (mine did for pooping), try the diaper steps.
Do each step for about 3-7 days before removing onto the next step. Always, talk to them about the next step before doing it.
“Ohh! Tomorrow, we’re going to cut a hole in your diaper. You’ll pee through the hole in your diaper. So fun! How do you feel about that?”
3. The Rubber Ducky Trick
Okay, this is kind of gross, but it worked. We would put a plastic rubber ducky in the potty and tell my son to make him float in the “water.”
Giving kids a goal that they feel proud of makes them feel confident to continue.
4. Reward Charts
I’ll be honest, reward charts can be tiring because you have to be super consistent, but they can work.
I actually used them later on in the potty training process. My son had mastered the art of going to the potty, but he was still having accidents here and there and wasn’t pooping consistently on the potty.
So, what I did was write down the steps I wanted him to accomplish:
For each one he did, he got a star and so many stars equaled a prize/treat/reward that we determined together.
You can cater this to your experience however you want.
Maybe for you, your son gets a star on his chart (or a sticker or a checkmark on his hand) every time he just pees on the potty. So many stars at the end of the day equals a prize.
Increase the criteria as your child improves → He has to get more stars per day or a prize comes every other day instead of everyday.
Finally, gradually reduce how often you give a reward until you aren’t handing them out anymore.
5. On and Off
This was kind of a mistake we made. I highly suggest the potty be an on and off thing instead of a lingering on kind of thing.
I wouldn’t place your child on the potty and instruct him to sit there until he goes. We really want our kids to recognize when they have to go and then go and be done with it.
That’s why I recommend no screens or books or games or sitting there holding their hands.
Forcing them to go or sit on the potty for too long will create a negative association with the potty and generally lead to more resistance.
6. No more diapers or pull-ups
Once your kids are developmentally ready to use the potty, do not go back to diapers, pull-ups or anything that looks or feels like a diaper except for nighttime and naps.
Kids need consistency and going back to diapers or pull-ups will be confusing.
Stick to underwear even if the accidents are annoying in the short term. It will be better in the long run.
Here are some thicker underwear that cause less of a mess.
. 7. Character Underwear
Buy your child his favorite character underwear - Paw Patrol, Batman, Mickey Mouse - and instruct him not to get Chase (insert character here) wet. “Help keep them dry.”
1. Put food coloring in the potty
Show your son that you’re putting food coloring in the potty and use this script…
“Look, I put a red drop in the potty. Turn your pee red! Look, your pee is red! What color do you want to make your pee next time?”
2. The Diaper Steps for Peeing and Pooping
If you have kids who scream for their diapers (mine did for pooping), try the diaper steps.
- Step 1: They can wear their diapers, but they have to be in the bathroom.
- Step 2: They can wear their diapers, but they have to sit on the potty.
- Step 3: They can wear their diapers, but there is a hole in the diaper.
- Step 4: No diaper!
Do each step for about 3-7 days before removing onto the next step. Always, talk to them about the next step before doing it.
“Ohh! Tomorrow, we’re going to cut a hole in your diaper. You’ll pee through the hole in your diaper. So fun! How do you feel about that?”
3. The Rubber Ducky Trick
Okay, this is kind of gross, but it worked. We would put a plastic rubber ducky in the potty and tell my son to make him float in the “water.”
Giving kids a goal that they feel proud of makes them feel confident to continue.
4. Reward Charts
I’ll be honest, reward charts can be tiring because you have to be super consistent, but they can work.
I actually used them later on in the potty training process. My son had mastered the art of going to the potty, but he was still having accidents here and there and wasn’t pooping consistently on the potty.
So, what I did was write down the steps I wanted him to accomplish:
- Pull down your pants on his own.
- Pee.
- Pull up pants on his own.
- Flush.
- Wash Hands.
- Poop in the potty.
For each one he did, he got a star and so many stars equaled a prize/treat/reward that we determined together.
You can cater this to your experience however you want.
Maybe for you, your son gets a star on his chart (or a sticker or a checkmark on his hand) every time he just pees on the potty. So many stars at the end of the day equals a prize.
Increase the criteria as your child improves → He has to get more stars per day or a prize comes every other day instead of everyday.
Finally, gradually reduce how often you give a reward until you aren’t handing them out anymore.
5. On and Off
This was kind of a mistake we made. I highly suggest the potty be an on and off thing instead of a lingering on kind of thing.
I wouldn’t place your child on the potty and instruct him to sit there until he goes. We really want our kids to recognize when they have to go and then go and be done with it.
That’s why I recommend no screens or books or games or sitting there holding their hands.
Forcing them to go or sit on the potty for too long will create a negative association with the potty and generally lead to more resistance.
6. No more diapers or pull-ups
Once your kids are developmentally ready to use the potty, do not go back to diapers, pull-ups or anything that looks or feels like a diaper except for nighttime and naps.
Kids need consistency and going back to diapers or pull-ups will be confusing.
Stick to underwear even if the accidents are annoying in the short term. It will be better in the long run.
Here are some thicker underwear that cause less of a mess.
. 7. Character Underwear
Buy your child his favorite character underwear - Paw Patrol, Batman, Mickey Mouse - and instruct him not to get Chase (insert character here) wet. “Help keep them dry.”
Mistakes I Made With Potty Training
Everyone makes mistakes. Here are mine…
My son was very scared to poop. He would hold it so badly that he became very constipated. At first, we tried to force him to go which was pretty traumatizing for him and made his constipation worse. We wouldn’t do this again. Instead we would do the Diaper Steps in the first place, which ended up working for us later on.
The timing was slightly off, especially with getting him to poop. I started the Big 3 Days in August since I am a teacher and off for the summer.
However, shortly after those Big 3 Days, I went back to work, we sold our house, moved into our son’s grandparents’ house, and then 2 months later moved into our new house.
The timing will never be perfect, but he had to undergo a lot of transitions that can make potty training difficult.
Try to avoid potty training when it closely coincides with a big transition like a new baby or moving.
My son was very scared to poop. He would hold it so badly that he became very constipated. At first, we tried to force him to go which was pretty traumatizing for him and made his constipation worse. We wouldn’t do this again. Instead we would do the Diaper Steps in the first place, which ended up working for us later on.
The timing was slightly off, especially with getting him to poop. I started the Big 3 Days in August since I am a teacher and off for the summer.
However, shortly after those Big 3 Days, I went back to work, we sold our house, moved into our son’s grandparents’ house, and then 2 months later moved into our new house.
The timing will never be perfect, but he had to undergo a lot of transitions that can make potty training difficult.
Try to avoid potty training when it closely coincides with a big transition like a new baby or moving.
Success!
Hopefully with this guide and tips, you’re successfully on your way to potty training. Remember your son will continue to have accidents. They won’t be perfect.
They might get caught up in playing and forget to go or go through some regressions.
Be gentle with them.
If you are still having extreme problems, check in with your doctor to see if they are developmentally ready.
But other than that, praise them and yourself for all your hard efforts.
And check out my course Now What? for strategies for some of life’s other difficult parenting moments.
They might get caught up in playing and forget to go or go through some regressions.
Be gentle with them.
If you are still having extreme problems, check in with your doctor to see if they are developmentally ready.
But other than that, praise them and yourself for all your hard efforts.
And check out my course Now What? for strategies for some of life’s other difficult parenting moments.
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Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists.
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It’s no surprise that society likes to joke about the tired mom.
TV shows play homage to her by having her mistakenly leave the house in her pajamas, robe, and slippers. Mom buns is now a common phrase. And we’ve all seen memes or pictures of a mom with huge bags under her eyes as she juggles the laundry, her kids pulling her in different directions, and trying to talk on the phone.
But a tired mom is no laughing matter. Sleep deprivation has serious side effects.
Difficulties with sleep and insomnia can linger far after the newborn phase. The tired mom, so weary from the day, collapses on her bed, and the next thing she knows she is unable to fall asleep. It’s frustrating.
I know because I’ve been there. I struggled with insomnia and sleep anxiety for many months. The rest of my house lay asleep peacefully while I tossed and turned with sheer panic.
It’s awful, and if you’re going through this, you’re not alone, and I have some tips for you.
*Update: I wrote this blog before I got real help for my insomnia. Read here for more accurate help when it comes to insomnia.
*DISCLAIMER: The information and advice in this blog is for educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, legal, or other professions. Call your medical or mental health professional, or 911, for all emergencies. Lauren Barrett is not liable for any advice or information provided in this blog.
TV shows play homage to her by having her mistakenly leave the house in her pajamas, robe, and slippers. Mom buns is now a common phrase. And we’ve all seen memes or pictures of a mom with huge bags under her eyes as she juggles the laundry, her kids pulling her in different directions, and trying to talk on the phone.
But a tired mom is no laughing matter. Sleep deprivation has serious side effects.
Difficulties with sleep and insomnia can linger far after the newborn phase. The tired mom, so weary from the day, collapses on her bed, and the next thing she knows she is unable to fall asleep. It’s frustrating.
I know because I’ve been there. I struggled with insomnia and sleep anxiety for many months. The rest of my house lay asleep peacefully while I tossed and turned with sheer panic.
It’s awful, and if you’re going through this, you’re not alone, and I have some tips for you.
*Update: I wrote this blog before I got real help for my insomnia. Read here for more accurate help when it comes to insomnia.
*DISCLAIMER: The information and advice in this blog is for educational purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical, mental health, legal, or other professions. Call your medical or mental health professional, or 911, for all emergencies. Lauren Barrett is not liable for any advice or information provided in this blog.
#1 Don’t Eat After 8PM.
When we put our head down on the pillow, we don’t want to have to worry about anything other than sleeping. Eating after 8PM can lead to digestive issues that can disrupt our sleeping.
When I was having trouble with sleep, I didn’t want any external factors to get in the way, so I eliminated eating after 8PM.
When I was having trouble with sleep, I didn’t want any external factors to get in the way, so I eliminated eating after 8PM.
#2 Limit Drinking
Despite the classic stereotypes of tired moms “needing” wine to unwind before bed, I learned that drinking alcohol up to four hours before bed can mess with one’s sleep.
If I did happen to drink, I would limit myself to one glass. Tired moms, there are plenty of other ways to unwind before bed. Don’t let society fool you into thinking that drinking is one of them.
The best thing for an overwhelmed, stressed out mom is sleep. Let’s not jeopardize it by drinking.
If I did happen to drink, I would limit myself to one glass. Tired moms, there are plenty of other ways to unwind before bed. Don’t let society fool you into thinking that drinking is one of them.
The best thing for an overwhelmed, stressed out mom is sleep. Let’s not jeopardize it by drinking.
#3 Set the Mood
Sleep hygiene is so important for adults and kids too. Just like it’s hard for me to go to sleep right after exercising or being on my phone for a while, I can’t be expected to go to bed after watching a stimulating TV show or vigorously texting.
That’s why it is so important to set the mood in order to eliminate bedtime struggles.
Setting the mood can look like this:
By setting the mood, we are preparing ourselves for sleep and getting ourselves to feel tired.
Even if I find myself getting home late or doing something stimulating later in the evening than normal, I have to take at least a half hour to an hour to unwind out of bed and bedroom.
Tired moms need that time to be by themselves and have some peace and quiet after the chaos and noise of the day.
That’s why it is so important to set the mood in order to eliminate bedtime struggles.
Setting the mood can look like this:
- Dimming all the lights at least a half hour before bed.
- Shutting off the TV right before bedtime.
- Lowering the temperature.
- Switching on a calming music from the sound machine.
- Speaking in softer, hushed voices.
- Lowering the volume on all sounds.
- Take a warm shower.
By setting the mood, we are preparing ourselves for sleep and getting ourselves to feel tired.
Even if I find myself getting home late or doing something stimulating later in the evening than normal, I have to take at least a half hour to an hour to unwind out of bed and bedroom.
Tired moms need that time to be by themselves and have some peace and quiet after the chaos and noise of the day.
#4 Avoid Screens after 9PM
There is a big reason why turning off screens after 9PM is the first thing on my list for my Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge. Seeing as sleep is one of, if not the, most important things we can do for our bodies, we need to make sure our bodies are ready for sleep when we go to lie down.
Screens, especially the blue light from our phones and I-pads, can mess with proper sleep. I find that after scrolling social media or going down a rabbit hole on Wikipedia or texting away with a friend, I have a harder time going to sleep.
That is why I turn on Do Not Disturb for 9:00 PM-6:00 AM. I like to have at least an hour away from my phone before bed.
Does this mean that I never check my phone? No. I just don’t engage in any activity that has me staring at it for too long.
As for TV screens, I like to turn off the TV about a half hour before I go to sleep.
Screens, especially the blue light from our phones and I-pads, can mess with proper sleep. I find that after scrolling social media or going down a rabbit hole on Wikipedia or texting away with a friend, I have a harder time going to sleep.
That is why I turn on Do Not Disturb for 9:00 PM-6:00 AM. I like to have at least an hour away from my phone before bed.
Does this mean that I never check my phone? No. I just don’t engage in any activity that has me staring at it for too long.
As for TV screens, I like to turn off the TV about a half hour before I go to sleep.
#5 Take Melatonin
I think the research on melatonin can be a little vague at times, but I still like to take 1-2 before bed even if only to serve as a placebo effect.
I chew these about a half hour before bed and let them work their magic.
I chew these about a half hour before bed and let them work their magic.
#6 The Bedroom is for Sleeping
I’ve started to spend less time in my bedroom and my bed is only for sleeping and well…
Research has shown that the more time spent in our bedtime the more sleep difficulties we’ll have later in the night.
So Moms, get out of your bedrooms. There is no wonder that houses are starting to put more real estate value on outdoor spaces instead of bedrooms.
After moving into our new house, we even have said that the bedroom will be the last room in the house we make over simply because we hardly spend time there.
Research has shown that the more time spent in our bedtime the more sleep difficulties we’ll have later in the night.
So Moms, get out of your bedrooms. There is no wonder that houses are starting to put more real estate value on outdoor spaces instead of bedrooms.
After moving into our new house, we even have said that the bedroom will be the last room in the house we make over simply because we hardly spend time there.
#7 Find the Good and Take Deep Breaths
A large part surrounding my difficulties sleeping was because I was so anxious about not sleeping. I would be tired, but as soon as I got into bed, I would start worrying and wondering if I would be able to sleep. The more I worried and wondered, the more I couldn’t sleep. It was a vicious cycle.
For that reason, I had to develop some mindful thinking and meditative practice for bed. For me, that was slowing down my breathing and taking a few deep breaths while I used a strategy called Finding the Good.
I would go through my day and pick out all the good things that happened. I would also ruminate on the good things of the future. Our minds have been trained to quickly go to all that can go wrong and all the negatives that happened that we have to really work to find the good.
For that reason, I had to develop some mindful thinking and meditative practice for bed. For me, that was slowing down my breathing and taking a few deep breaths while I used a strategy called Finding the Good.
I would go through my day and pick out all the good things that happened. I would also ruminate on the good things of the future. Our minds have been trained to quickly go to all that can go wrong and all the negatives that happened that we have to really work to find the good.
#8 Take Up Reading or Another Hobby Before Bed
Instead of being on screens before bed, which we know can disrupt sleep, Moms should find some hobby they could do before bed that helps take their minds off any anxiety they have.
Dooms scrolling on phones is a thing that unfortunately, I myself along with other moms have gotten caught up in.
Instead I have started reading before bed.
Other hobbies can be: scrapbooking, writing, knitting, sewing, yoga, and meditating.
Dooms scrolling on phones is a thing that unfortunately, I myself along with other moms have gotten caught up in.
Instead I have started reading before bed.
Other hobbies can be: scrapbooking, writing, knitting, sewing, yoga, and meditating.
#9 Stick to a Consistent Sleep Schedule
There is no such thing as “catching up on sleep”. Because of that, I try to wake up and go to bed roughly at the same time every night of the week, including weekends.
Your body will become used to this schedule and, in turn, be more likely to have good quality sleep.
I know, as a mom, that after the kids go to bed we only have very little precious time to a.) straighten up the house; b.) spend time with our spouse; and c.) spend time alone in “me time.” Because we want to do all that, we might fight to stay awake. This is called Revenge Bedtime Procrastination and women and college students are most affected by it.
Experts don’t recommend that moms do this because not getting enough sleep for the next day will leave moms trapped in a stressed out cycle.
Instead go to bed at consistent times and follow my bedtime tips to help the nighttime routine go smoother without so much stalling from your kids and divide those household duties with your spouse by using Fair Play And finally, don’t be afraid to do chores and cleaning while your kids are awake and give them responsibilities of chores to do.
Your body will become used to this schedule and, in turn, be more likely to have good quality sleep.
I know, as a mom, that after the kids go to bed we only have very little precious time to a.) straighten up the house; b.) spend time with our spouse; and c.) spend time alone in “me time.” Because we want to do all that, we might fight to stay awake. This is called Revenge Bedtime Procrastination and women and college students are most affected by it.
Experts don’t recommend that moms do this because not getting enough sleep for the next day will leave moms trapped in a stressed out cycle.
Instead go to bed at consistent times and follow my bedtime tips to help the nighttime routine go smoother without so much stalling from your kids and divide those household duties with your spouse by using Fair Play And finally, don’t be afraid to do chores and cleaning while your kids are awake and give them responsibilities of chores to do.
#10 Ask Your Doctor for a Pill
If you are like me, my insomnia got so bad that I had to ask my doctor for a pill. I hadn’t slept in 48 hours (turns out I was being overmedicated for my autoimmune disease - but that is a different story).
The pill worked wonders. I ended up gradually weaning myself off the pills, (That should be the purpose of most pills that alter your mind chemically) [LINK] but just knowing that I had the pills just in case helped me fall asleep faster and better.
Sometimes we need that kickstart to help us sleep. And I knew that once I started getting a few decent nights of sleep, my overall physical and mental health would improve drastically. And it did.
But have a plan to gradually get yourself off the pill by using other holistic sleeping strategies.
The pill worked wonders. I ended up gradually weaning myself off the pills, (That should be the purpose of most pills that alter your mind chemically) [LINK] but just knowing that I had the pills just in case helped me fall asleep faster and better.
Sometimes we need that kickstart to help us sleep. And I knew that once I started getting a few decent nights of sleep, my overall physical and mental health would improve drastically. And it did.
But have a plan to gradually get yourself off the pill by using other holistic sleeping strategies.
Whether you’re in the throes of sleep deprivations or just a tired mom who could use a little more sleep, I hope these tips help.
I really have empathy for people who are having trouble sleeping, and I say a prayer each night for all of you.
Allowing yourself to get enough sleep is one of the most selfless acts of love you can do for yourself and the people around you. When I get enough sleep, I’m a better mom, wife, teacher, and overall person.
Happy sleeping! Hope this post wasn’t a snooze fest.
I really have empathy for people who are having trouble sleeping, and I say a prayer each night for all of you.
Allowing yourself to get enough sleep is one of the most selfless acts of love you can do for yourself and the people around you. When I get enough sleep, I’m a better mom, wife, teacher, and overall person.
Happy sleeping! Hope this post wasn’t a snooze fest.
| | Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists. |
Have you ever noticed how you feel during your child’s tantrum? Maybe you start having hot flashes or your heart beats really fast. You feel anger boiling inside you.
All those are normal reactions to your child’s tantrum.
But we have two choices from where to go from there….
We can either let our feelings escalate which usually results in our yelling at our kid, getting into power struggles, or labeling our kids with phrases like “Why are you always so bad?”
Or…
We can choose to remain calm during tantrums and curb our stressed out feelings. Easier said than done, right?
Keeping calm during tantrums isn’t always easy, but it is the right choice to make for ourselves and our kids. Here’s why…
All those are normal reactions to your child’s tantrum.
But we have two choices from where to go from there….
We can either let our feelings escalate which usually results in our yelling at our kid, getting into power struggles, or labeling our kids with phrases like “Why are you always so bad?”
Or…
We can choose to remain calm during tantrums and curb our stressed out feelings. Easier said than done, right?
Keeping calm during tantrums isn’t always easy, but it is the right choice to make for ourselves and our kids. Here’s why…
Why Do We Want to Remain Calm?
Considering your child isn’t in any danger, focus on yourself first during a tantrum.
Imagine you're flying in an airplane and you hit some turbulence and the plane starts rumbling and bumping up and down. You might feel a little scared and anxious, so you look around to see the reactions of the flight attendants and wait to see what the pilot has to say.
Now, imagine if the flight attendants and pilots started freaking out. Your anxiety would most likely escalate and cause you to freak out too. But if the pilot and flight attendants were poised and calm, you would start to relax too.
Kids are the same way during turbulent times. Kids mirror the reactions of the person in charge.
If you are calm, they will start to be calm too.
If you are upset, they will be too, and your children will realize that they have more power when they see their parents aren't calm. And that is unsettling to them. An upset, enraged parent can signal to your child that his emotions are too much for my parents.
On the other hand, a calm and confident parent lets your kids know that you can handle their big emotions and just by knowing that can help them start to feel better.
Imagine you're flying in an airplane and you hit some turbulence and the plane starts rumbling and bumping up and down. You might feel a little scared and anxious, so you look around to see the reactions of the flight attendants and wait to see what the pilot has to say.
Now, imagine if the flight attendants and pilots started freaking out. Your anxiety would most likely escalate and cause you to freak out too. But if the pilot and flight attendants were poised and calm, you would start to relax too.
Kids are the same way during turbulent times. Kids mirror the reactions of the person in charge.
If you are calm, they will start to be calm too.
If you are upset, they will be too, and your children will realize that they have more power when they see their parents aren't calm. And that is unsettling to them. An upset, enraged parent can signal to your child that his emotions are too much for my parents.
On the other hand, a calm and confident parent lets your kids know that you can handle their big emotions and just by knowing that can help them start to feel better.
How to Stay Calm During Tantrums
Staying calm during a tantrum doesn’t have to be hard when we have a toolkit of resources to use every time. With practice and consistency we can master staying calm during our child’s tantrum.
1. Take Deep Breaths
During my son’s tantrums, I will first close my eyes, put my hand on my belly, and take 5 deep, slow breaths. By doing this, I am able to block out what my son is doing and toward inward.
It gives me the needed time not to say or do anything but simply focus on calming myself. What’s great is that my son takes notice, and he might even do his magic breaths himself.
It gives me the needed time not to say or do anything but simply focus on calming myself. What’s great is that my son takes notice, and he might even do his magic breaths himself.
2. Have a Mantra
I, then, open my eyes and repeat a mantra either out loud or in my head while still keeping my hand on my belly.
Having a mantra can look like this:
“This is hard, but I will get through this.”
“I am in control of the situation.”
“I can handle this.”
A mantra will reaffirm that you are the one in control and that you are able to handle the situation. Seems obvious, but sometimes during a tantrum we let our kids take over and we quickly feel as if we are losing control.
That’s why we need a mantra.
Saying it out loud even works in calming your kids because they take notice of what is being said.
Have a go to mantra and practice saying it in the mirror and during every tantrum.
Having a mantra can look like this:
“This is hard, but I will get through this.”
“I am in control of the situation.”
“I can handle this.”
A mantra will reaffirm that you are the one in control and that you are able to handle the situation. Seems obvious, but sometimes during a tantrum we let our kids take over and we quickly feel as if we are losing control.
That’s why we need a mantra.
Saying it out loud even works in calming your kids because they take notice of what is being said.
Have a go to mantra and practice saying it in the mirror and during every tantrum.
3. Imagine Yourself in a Superhero cape
So, you have taken your deep breaths and repeated your mantra. Now have a visualization to make you remain calm.
Some moms have reported that they imagine themselves in a superhero cape. They are standing on top of a large building with their cape whipping in the wind. They have the power to hold boundaries and remain calm in the face of danger (or, in this case, a tantrum).
Do not underestimate the power of visualization.
For added effect, it would help if you have an actual superhero cape to put on. Stand on the couch and pose like a superhero. If nothing else, your child will wonder what on earth Mommy is doing.
Some moms have reported that they imagine themselves in a superhero cape. They are standing on top of a large building with their cape whipping in the wind. They have the power to hold boundaries and remain calm in the face of danger (or, in this case, a tantrum).
Do not underestimate the power of visualization.
For added effect, it would help if you have an actual superhero cape to put on. Stand on the couch and pose like a superhero. If nothing else, your child will wonder what on earth Mommy is doing.
4. Form a Bubble Around You
I like to use this bubble strategy in public because sometimes I forget that my toddler’s meltdown only involves my toddler and me. No one else.
But when we are around other people and our kid is having a meltdown, it is easy to imagine judgment from other people. That causes us to get worked up and say things like “Look at the other kids. Are they being bad like you?” or to look around at other strangers and roll your eyes and say, “Look at everyone staring at you.”
Those comments are not helpful.
So what I need to do in order to block out all the people around me is to form a metaphoric bubble around my child and me. No one else can see into the bubble. We cannot see out.
This strategy helps me really focus on the needs of myself and my child without worrying about the perception from other people.
But when we are around other people and our kid is having a meltdown, it is easy to imagine judgment from other people. That causes us to get worked up and say things like “Look at the other kids. Are they being bad like you?” or to look around at other strangers and roll your eyes and say, “Look at everyone staring at you.”
Those comments are not helpful.
So what I need to do in order to block out all the people around me is to form a metaphoric bubble around my child and me. No one else can see into the bubble. We cannot see out.
This strategy helps me really focus on the needs of myself and my child without worrying about the perception from other people.
5. Sign Language
Using sign language has proven benefits to calm kids. Using sign language also calms myself.
Some signs to use: calm, angry, happy, peace, quiet, confident, brave.
Just like your mantra, you can repeat your sign language mantra over and over again. For example, I am CALM and CONFIDENT even though you are ANGRY. I WANT PEACE.
Some signs to use: calm, angry, happy, peace, quiet, confident, brave.
Just like your mantra, you can repeat your sign language mantra over and over again. For example, I am CALM and CONFIDENT even though you are ANGRY. I WANT PEACE.
6. Do Jumping Jacks
I haven’t specifically done this one yet, but I read about it and love it! While your child is having a tantrum, get up and do jumping jacks.
For starters, they will be intrigued at what you are doing, and secondly, exercise can calm you.
Doing the jumping jacks will take your mind off what your child is upset about.
For starters, they will be intrigued at what you are doing, and secondly, exercise can calm you.
Doing the jumping jacks will take your mind off what your child is upset about.
7. Apply the Most Generous Interpretation
It’s hard to be angry with someone who has a good reason for being upset. That’s why I try to apply the Most Generous Interpretation (MGI) to my son’s tantrum, and just by doing that makes me relax and remain calm.
It helps me realize that he isn’t purposefully trying to make me upset and that he isn’t a bad kid.
It helps me realize that he isn’t purposefully trying to make me upset and that he isn’t a bad kid.
There you have it! My 7 secrets to staying calm during a tantrum. I hope these help. And always remember that if you don’t remain calm, you can always repair and try again.
My parenting guide, Now What? will help you stay calm and confident.
My parenting guide, Now What? will help you stay calm and confident.
| | Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists. |
One of my favorite things to do is listen and watch my 3-year old son independently play.
It’s so cute to see the way their minds work and all the imaginative scenarios they act out.
The other day he was using his play mat to build a castle and racing his cars through it. He was so proud to show off what he was doing too. It melted my heart.
But how did we get there? Let’s explore some key ideas of how to foster independent play for toddlers before we arrive at the best open ended toys.
It’s so cute to see the way their minds work and all the imaginative scenarios they act out.
The other day he was using his play mat to build a castle and racing his cars through it. He was so proud to show off what he was doing too. It melted my heart.
But how did we get there? Let’s explore some key ideas of how to foster independent play for toddlers before we arrive at the best open ended toys.
- Why do we want to encourage independent play?
- How do we encourage independent play?
- What are open-ended toys?
- 14 must-buy open-ended toys
- Household items used for independent play
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Why do we want to encourage independent play?
Play is work for kids. Their job is literally to play. And, they don’t need adults to participate in play. We, actually, stifle play and creativity. Our presence gets in their way.
Susie Allison of the BusyToddler says that adults (with great intentions) cause a shift in the play that removes: responsibility from the child, the chance for problem solving, and the way play is structured.
That’s why independent play is such a win! Win for our toddler because they are developing important lifelong skills. And a win for us because it takes away the guilt and pressure to feel like we have to be doing MORE.
Does this mean we can never play with our kids? Of course not. If we want to jump in from time to time, we should. This just means that if we don’t want to play with our kids, we should definitely not feel bad about it.
Where parents are necessary in building those connections is through reading together, modeling appropriate behaviors and actions, conversations in the car, dinner table, or on a walk, working through problems and solutions, and being their guide in the world.
They don't need us to play. Play is innate.
Research show other benefits of important play for little kids:
Now that we know how crucial independent play is, we can ask ourselves the next question.
Susie Allison of the BusyToddler says that adults (with great intentions) cause a shift in the play that removes: responsibility from the child, the chance for problem solving, and the way play is structured.
That’s why independent play is such a win! Win for our toddler because they are developing important lifelong skills. And a win for us because it takes away the guilt and pressure to feel like we have to be doing MORE.
Does this mean we can never play with our kids? Of course not. If we want to jump in from time to time, we should. This just means that if we don’t want to play with our kids, we should definitely not feel bad about it.
Where parents are necessary in building those connections is through reading together, modeling appropriate behaviors and actions, conversations in the car, dinner table, or on a walk, working through problems and solutions, and being their guide in the world.
They don't need us to play. Play is innate.
Research show other benefits of important play for little kids:
- It enhances brain structure and function.
- Promotes executive function (the process of learning)
- Supports the formation of the safe, stable, and nurturing relationships
- Promote the social-emotional, cognitive, language, and self-regulation skills
- Better able to think creatively and multitask.
- Increased quality and quantity of language.
- Pretend play encourages self-regulation.
Now that we know how crucial independent play is, we can ask ourselves the next question.
How do we encourage independent play?
I am not going to dive deeply into each one. I go into each one more deeply in my course, Now What?
But here are 8 steps to encourage independent play.
Now that you have the 8 steps to encourage independent play, we have come to our next question.
But here are 8 steps to encourage independent play.
- Start by playing together.
- Gradually back away for a very short period of time. Like 1-2 minutes. Maybe even less depending on your child. No matter how long they played without you, PRAISE them. Increase this time by a few seconds each time you play.
- Sprinkle in time-ins throughout the day to fill up your child’s attention cup.
- Be honest with why you won’t play with them. “I need to work, but I’ll be close by.” “I really like watching you play.”
- Once your kid is engaged in play, stay out of it. No need to pepper them with questions. That’s annoying and disrupts their work.
- Create a “yes space.” They should be able to play with and touch mostly everything in their play area.
- Make play a part of their everyday routine.
- Buy the right toys.
Now that you have the 8 steps to encourage independent play, we have come to our next question.
What are open-ended toys and why are they the right kind of toys?
Here is the criteria for open-ended toys:
A good toy is one of the following:
We want our kids to have to struggle and think a bit and that can be encouraged by the kinds of toys we buy.
Which brings me to our next to last question…
A good toy is one of the following:
- Grows with your child.
- Sparks imagination and creativity.
- Lets your child take the lead.
- Isn’t loud, flashy, and does all the work.
- Sturdy and durable.
- Pretend play (doctors kits, tool kits, dress up clothes).
We want our kids to have to struggle and think a bit and that can be encouraged by the kinds of toys we buy.
Which brings me to our next to last question…
What are 14 must-buy open-ended toys?
1. Magnatiles
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These magnetic shapes promote mental growth in kids while learning core STEM concepts and developing critical thinking skills. What I like about these tiles is that they are not easy but the end results are satisfying. They build resilience. |
2. Building blocks
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Research has shown that block play supports the development of social skills, abstract thinking, creativity, mathematical thinking, and literacy.
My son can not only learn the ABCs and words that begin with each letter with his blocks, but he can use them to build structures, ramps, and towers. |
3. Toy vehicles
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Toy vehicles enhance cognitive thinking such as basic physics and math. They support motor skills and interactive play.
My son has a bucket full of toy cars, trains, and trucks that get hours of play every day. |
4. Pretend People
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Pretend people (action figures, dolls, magnetic people, wooden people, plastic people) boosts creative play, inclusivity, and storytelling.
We use our pretend people to act out all kinds of real life situations. When buying fake people, it’s important to include a diverse set of races, abilities, and ethnicities, and genders. |
5. Pretend food/kitchen
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Pretend food and kitchens help with language development and motor skills.
My son has used his kitchen and food to play restaurant and call the “cook man” to order take out. |
6. Dress up clothes
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Dressing up is a form of imaginative play. It encourages creative thinking and communication skills.
Have a little box or bin where kids can freely pull out dress up clothes whenever they want. |
7. Kits
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In addition to the dress up clothes, have pretend kits on hands. For example, doctor play kits, tool kits, hair salon kits, etc.
In the same way, play kits encourage creative thinking and communication skills. |
8. Puzzles
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Puzzles are great for hand-eye coordination and fine motor skills. They also work on building self-esteem and problem-solving.
We have a few puzzles related to our son’s interests that he enjoys. |
9. Easel or chalkboard
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Every kid needs a large space where they can create. We have a double sided easel/chalkboard and it’s been the canvas for menus for restaurants, tic-tac-toe games, drawings, the letter of the day, and so much more.
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10. Floor mats
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I love floor mats for kids. We have one of a town. It opens the door for imagination. My son has raced cars on it and has used his building blocks to add to the city houses, hospitals, schools, and fire stations.
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11. Stacking cups
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Stacking cups or blocks help develop fine motor skills and explore concepts like early math, geometry, problem-solving, and cause and effect.
The stacking cups and blocks have also been used to build ramps and bridges. They have served as bedrooms and living rooms to houses and a jail to a robber. |
12. Tents, forts, tunnels, houses
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I would spend hours as a kid with my friends building a whole system of houses, tents, tunnels, and forts throughout our basement. We reenacted many different scenarios while playing in those houses, letting our imagination run wild.
These playhouses, tents, tunnels, and forts let your kids foster their curiosity and creativity. |
13. Play dough or kinetic sand
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Okay, these things can be messy, so make sure you have a designated space for your kids to play with these things, or you’ll be digging play dough and sand out of the carpet for days.
Play dough and kinetic sand are such sensory materials for kids and can be quite calming to play with. I like to add to their playtime experience by getting different tools to be used with each. For play dough, I’ve bought cutting and rolling tools to chop, shape, and flatten the play dough. I’ve also bought cookie cutters, so my son can make different animals in the play dough. For the kinetic sand, you can put it in a long, shallow plastic bin. Add trucks, rocks, sand toys, water, shovels, blocks, etc to make it a whole sensory bin. |
14. Bubbles
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Bubbles are great for the brain. Playing with them helps your kids work on oral motor skills, gross motor skills, cognitive development, eye tracking skills, and joint attention. Read more here.
You can get bubbles where your kids have to blow themselves or those machines that create bubbles and your kids can run and pop them. |
There you have it! 14 open-ended toys to promote independent play for little kids.
But…
We are not finished yet. We still have one more question to ask. Are toys the only thing to use to promote independent play?
No!
What are the best household items used for independent play?
That’s right. Everyday items found around the house work just as well for independent play and often don’t cost a cent.
At first, you can model how you play with these items or give them some ideas if they are struggling.
But really simply setting these items out and letting your kids figure out what to do with them is all you need to do.
I’m going to list 14 of the best items and link some ways to use these items.
At first, you can model how you play with these items or give them some ideas if they are struggling.
But really simply setting these items out and letting your kids figure out what to do with them is all you need to do.
I’m going to list 14 of the best items and link some ways to use these items.
1. Cardboard box
I included activities to do with cardboard boxes but, honestly, you can just set out the cardboard box with some markers and let our kids take the reins.
My son can spend hours doodling all over a broken down box.
2. Markers
3. Mirrors
4. Painters Tape
5. Butcher Paper
6. Kitchen Items
7. Pom Poms
8. Dirt
9. Old Clothes from Your Closet
10. Blankets
11. Toilet Paper Tubes
12. Flashlights
13. Plastic Cups
14. Laundry Baskets
Again, I gave you some activities to do with your kids if that is something you like doing.
But, all you NEED to do is set out these items and give your kids access to them. You DO NOT need to or should even show them how to play with these items every single time.
Remember kids learn best through play when there isn’t an adult guiding them on what to do.
To me that is a big sigh of relief.
Happy playing
For your kids, not you, Mama! You get a break :-)
Check out my parenting guide, Now What?, for more help in promoting independent play.
But, all you NEED to do is set out these items and give your kids access to them. You DO NOT need to or should even show them how to play with these items every single time.
Remember kids learn best through play when there isn’t an adult guiding them on what to do.
To me that is a big sigh of relief.
Happy playing
For your kids, not you, Mama! You get a break :-)
Check out my parenting guide, Now What?, for more help in promoting independent play.
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Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists.
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“What’s the name of that Silician volcano again?”
Silence.
“It’s E-something. Elba? Elna? Etta? No, not Etta. That’s Etta James, and she always shows up in these things. Think.”
Silence.
“Ohhh, I know! It’s Etna. I got it...No thanks to you. You’ve been a lousy help.”
I stare down at my newborn baby peacefully sleeping in his little rocker nestled at the bottom of my feet. It’s early morning. Or maybe it’s late morning. Heck, maybe it’s even the late afternoon.
Either way, I’m still in my pajamas perched on our kitchen table chair hunched over my classic breakfast of oatmeal, peanut butter, and banana with a crossword puzzle on the side.
It had been a while since I had indulged myself in doing a morning crossword puzzle. In college, I would religiously do the puzzles in the paper every day. Friends would come and go into my apartment and every now and then stop to linger over one of my unfinished puzzles, helping me out.
A “sweep” is what I would call it when I would accomplish them all - crossword, sudoku, and all the rest.
Then, I got pregnant. As someone who usually loves everything and is mostly happy, I really didn’t enjoy pregnancy. I spent most of my pregnancy never quite getting rid of that morning sickness which, for me, was all-day sickness and throwing up on occasion. It held on to the bitter end.
A lot of my passions I stopped doing. Running, reading, writing, and even the crossword puzzle had been slowly fading from my daily routine. Its demise imminent.
Instead my days were spent lying on my bed for hours not moving or not sleeping. Just staring consumed with negative thoughts. I can’t be a mother. I don’t even know how to hold a baby. The nurses will surely take my baby away from me as soon as they see that. They will say I am unfit. They have never seen anyone as bad a mom as I am.
And on top of my own negative thoughts was the unsolicited advice from the naysayers who love to tell pregnant moms “enjoy it while you can because once the baby comes you won’t have time anymore.”
“Haha. Thanks.” I would reply back in mock humor and gratitude at their duplicitous attempt to be helpful.
These interactions would usually lead me to go home and quite mellow dramatically throw a “ceremonial burning” of all my printed out crosswords and books as my husband watched in horror.
“Well, Sally Stranger said I won’t have time for this anymore. In the trash you go. Goodbye crosswords. Nice knowing you.”
Then, January 31, 2019 I gave birth to my son. I can’t quite describe the feeling I felt, but it was one of elation. Every single negative thought I had prior to his birth was swept away in a tidal wave of happiness. I knew the moment I held him that I was meant to be a mom.
In the days that followed my new motherhood status, I also had another revelation. I was a mom now and true to all those strangers words my life had changed forever. They were right. I was, in fact, more tired and in those early days I got less sleep.
But, in another way, they were wrong. I was still myself. Lauren. And all of my passions were still mine. I wanted my son to see me still nurturing and growing what I love to do. I wanted him to see that I didn’t just hand over everything that made me me in order to be his mom. I didn’t want to lose myself in the process.
I didn’t want to give up reading, running, and my beloved morning crossword puzzles.
So in the simplicity of maternity leave, where I didn’t have to worry about work emails, lesson plans, and grading papers, I broke out the crossword puzzle again. This time with a sidekick planted next to me.
Yes, my eyes were a little tired, my brain a little foggy, and my recall a little slower, but I finished it. And I finished it the next day too. Each day, reclaiming a little bit of me that I thought I had lost in pregnancy.
Two and half years later….
“Living room seating. Starts with ‘s’. Aha! Sofa.”
“Sofa,” a little voice repeats back.
“The next clue is fish eggs. Now, Henry, some advice. The answer is roe, and it is a very common answer in a crossword puzzle. Roe.”
“Roe. roe. roe…” Henry mimics followed by fits of giggles.
“Row, row, row your boat.” I sing back.
More laughter.
A lot has changed in 2 and a half years. My son has grown. He is walking and talking and developing his own little, silly personality.
We still do the crossword puzzle albeit not daily. It’s more reserved for the quiet, peaceful mornings of the weekend. He has become somewhat of a better partner in that time. Although his attention span is lacking. Dump Trucks and race cars are huge distractions and often are more fun than completing the last two-thirds of the puzzle.
It’s okay though. I release him from his crossword duties to go play, and I stay in my chair to finish it on my own. Afterall, it’s my thing. Not his. He’ll discover his own thing soon enough, and I’ll be sure to nurture and encourage that. In the meantime, I make sure to fit in some time for me.
Silence.
“It’s E-something. Elba? Elna? Etta? No, not Etta. That’s Etta James, and she always shows up in these things. Think.”
Silence.
“Ohhh, I know! It’s Etna. I got it...No thanks to you. You’ve been a lousy help.”
I stare down at my newborn baby peacefully sleeping in his little rocker nestled at the bottom of my feet. It’s early morning. Or maybe it’s late morning. Heck, maybe it’s even the late afternoon.
Either way, I’m still in my pajamas perched on our kitchen table chair hunched over my classic breakfast of oatmeal, peanut butter, and banana with a crossword puzzle on the side.
It had been a while since I had indulged myself in doing a morning crossword puzzle. In college, I would religiously do the puzzles in the paper every day. Friends would come and go into my apartment and every now and then stop to linger over one of my unfinished puzzles, helping me out.
A “sweep” is what I would call it when I would accomplish them all - crossword, sudoku, and all the rest.
Then, I got pregnant. As someone who usually loves everything and is mostly happy, I really didn’t enjoy pregnancy. I spent most of my pregnancy never quite getting rid of that morning sickness which, for me, was all-day sickness and throwing up on occasion. It held on to the bitter end.
A lot of my passions I stopped doing. Running, reading, writing, and even the crossword puzzle had been slowly fading from my daily routine. Its demise imminent.
Instead my days were spent lying on my bed for hours not moving or not sleeping. Just staring consumed with negative thoughts. I can’t be a mother. I don’t even know how to hold a baby. The nurses will surely take my baby away from me as soon as they see that. They will say I am unfit. They have never seen anyone as bad a mom as I am.
And on top of my own negative thoughts was the unsolicited advice from the naysayers who love to tell pregnant moms “enjoy it while you can because once the baby comes you won’t have time anymore.”
“Haha. Thanks.” I would reply back in mock humor and gratitude at their duplicitous attempt to be helpful.
These interactions would usually lead me to go home and quite mellow dramatically throw a “ceremonial burning” of all my printed out crosswords and books as my husband watched in horror.
“Well, Sally Stranger said I won’t have time for this anymore. In the trash you go. Goodbye crosswords. Nice knowing you.”
Then, January 31, 2019 I gave birth to my son. I can’t quite describe the feeling I felt, but it was one of elation. Every single negative thought I had prior to his birth was swept away in a tidal wave of happiness. I knew the moment I held him that I was meant to be a mom.
In the days that followed my new motherhood status, I also had another revelation. I was a mom now and true to all those strangers words my life had changed forever. They were right. I was, in fact, more tired and in those early days I got less sleep.
But, in another way, they were wrong. I was still myself. Lauren. And all of my passions were still mine. I wanted my son to see me still nurturing and growing what I love to do. I wanted him to see that I didn’t just hand over everything that made me me in order to be his mom. I didn’t want to lose myself in the process.
I didn’t want to give up reading, running, and my beloved morning crossword puzzles.
So in the simplicity of maternity leave, where I didn’t have to worry about work emails, lesson plans, and grading papers, I broke out the crossword puzzle again. This time with a sidekick planted next to me.
Yes, my eyes were a little tired, my brain a little foggy, and my recall a little slower, but I finished it. And I finished it the next day too. Each day, reclaiming a little bit of me that I thought I had lost in pregnancy.
Two and half years later….
“Living room seating. Starts with ‘s’. Aha! Sofa.”
“Sofa,” a little voice repeats back.
“The next clue is fish eggs. Now, Henry, some advice. The answer is roe, and it is a very common answer in a crossword puzzle. Roe.”
“Roe. roe. roe…” Henry mimics followed by fits of giggles.
“Row, row, row your boat.” I sing back.
More laughter.
A lot has changed in 2 and a half years. My son has grown. He is walking and talking and developing his own little, silly personality.
We still do the crossword puzzle albeit not daily. It’s more reserved for the quiet, peaceful mornings of the weekend. He has become somewhat of a better partner in that time. Although his attention span is lacking. Dump Trucks and race cars are huge distractions and often are more fun than completing the last two-thirds of the puzzle.
It’s okay though. I release him from his crossword duties to go play, and I stay in my chair to finish it on my own. Afterall, it’s my thing. Not his. He’ll discover his own thing soon enough, and I’ll be sure to nurture and encourage that. In the meantime, I make sure to fit in some time for me.
| | Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists. |
21 Thoughtful Gifts to Get for A New Mom After She's Had a Baby to Fill Up Her Emotional Registry
5/8/2022
After a new mom has a baby, sometimes the baby becomes the center of attention and gets all the gifts. The mom can get forgotten. But if you are wondering how to fill up a new mom’s emotional registry, I have some of the best gifts for a new mom.
An emotional registry is a list of gifts for moms who just had a baby that helps them meet their emotional needs and fill up their cup.
These registry items can include gifts that provide self-care, attention, help, friendship, and a sense of identity to the new mom.
I highly advise you to just give a gift to a new mom instead of asking if she needs anything.
A lot of items on this list aren’t tangible and aren’t for the baby.
In my opinion, the most thoughtful and best gifts to give a mom after she gives birth, are the ones that focus on making her feel like a person again and remind her that she isn’t alone in this thing called motherhood. She has a support time and she has a sense of identity that can be (if she wants) more than mom.
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
An emotional registry is a list of gifts for moms who just had a baby that helps them meet their emotional needs and fill up their cup.
These registry items can include gifts that provide self-care, attention, help, friendship, and a sense of identity to the new mom.
I highly advise you to just give a gift to a new mom instead of asking if she needs anything.
A lot of items on this list aren’t tangible and aren’t for the baby.
In my opinion, the most thoughtful and best gifts to give a mom after she gives birth, are the ones that focus on making her feel like a person again and remind her that she isn’t alone in this thing called motherhood. She has a support time and she has a sense of identity that can be (if she wants) more than mom.
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
21 Thoughtful Things to Get for A New Mom After She's Had a Baby to Fill Up Her Emotional Registry
HELPING GIFTS
1. Gift Cards to Restaurants
Cooking and eating aren’t a top priority for new parents. While feeding the baby never goes forgotten, a mom feeding herself often does.
Giving birth, breastfeeding, caring for a newborn, and recovering are a lot of work, and a new mom needs fuel and energy to recover.
Gift cards to restaurants are great because chances are she has enough freezer and home cooked meals sitting at home waiting to be eaten. That was the case in my situation.
And while those meals were certainly welcomed and necessary, they can go bad after a while and eventually run out.
Having restaurant gift cards can save new moms (and dads) when they are in a pinch and are too tired to cook or figure out a meal.
1. Gift Cards to Restaurants
Cooking and eating aren’t a top priority for new parents. While feeding the baby never goes forgotten, a mom feeding herself often does.
Giving birth, breastfeeding, caring for a newborn, and recovering are a lot of work, and a new mom needs fuel and energy to recover.
Gift cards to restaurants are great because chances are she has enough freezer and home cooked meals sitting at home waiting to be eaten. That was the case in my situation.
And while those meals were certainly welcomed and necessary, they can go bad after a while and eventually run out.
Having restaurant gift cards can save new moms (and dads) when they are in a pinch and are too tired to cook or figure out a meal.
2. Food Delivery Services
Likewise, food delivery services, such as Uber Eats, DoorDash,or GrubHub, can come in handy too for new parents when they look into the fridge and realize they have nothing to eat after a long day.
Just make sure that the new parents live in a place that accepts food delivery services.
Likewise, food delivery services, such as Uber Eats, DoorDash,or GrubHub, can come in handy too for new parents when they look into the fridge and realize they have nothing to eat after a long day.
Just make sure that the new parents live in a place that accepts food delivery services.
3. Grocery Pickup
My mother-in-law got this for us after I gave birth to our son, and it was so helpful. She paid for a year of grocery pickup from Harris Teeter.
This gift saves sleep-deprived parents from dragging their little one to the store to shop for groceries. And while getting out to a grocery store is enjoyable every now and then, it’s nice to have the option to do pickup.
My mother-in-law got this for us after I gave birth to our son, and it was so helpful. She paid for a year of grocery pickup from Harris Teeter.
This gift saves sleep-deprived parents from dragging their little one to the store to shop for groceries. And while getting out to a grocery store is enjoyable every now and then, it’s nice to have the option to do pickup.
4. Meal Delivery Kits
Following in the same category of food, a meal service is a thoughtful gift for new moms after she has had a baby.
Hello Fresh, Blue Apron, EMeals, and many more are all affordable options to gift new parents in order to make their meal prepping quick and easy because taking care of a newborn can be a fulltime job.
Following in the same category of food, a meal service is a thoughtful gift for new moms after she has had a baby.
Hello Fresh, Blue Apron, EMeals, and many more are all affordable options to gift new parents in order to make their meal prepping quick and easy because taking care of a newborn can be a fulltime job.
5. House Cleaning Service
Keeping a tidy house quickly falls by the wayside for new parents. And if you are like me, a cluttered house means a cluttered mind. A messy house triggered my mental load, and I could quickly spiral if things weren’t neat.
So whether you gift a new mom, a one-time deep cleaning or a few month’s supply, this is a very thoughtful gift to let new parents not to have to worry about always keeping a clean house.
Keeping a tidy house quickly falls by the wayside for new parents. And if you are like me, a cluttered house means a cluttered mind. A messy house triggered my mental load, and I could quickly spiral if things weren’t neat.
So whether you gift a new mom, a one-time deep cleaning or a few month’s supply, this is a very thoughtful gift to let new parents not to have to worry about always keeping a clean house.
6. Organizer
With a new baby comes a whole lot of new stuff. It’s overwhelming. And if a system isn’t developed, it’s easy for a new mom to get stressed out by it all.
Hire her an organizer to come over and straighten it all out and develop a system that works for her.
While I doubt you can land the Home Edit, many cities have organizers that do a pretty good job.
With a new baby comes a whole lot of new stuff. It’s overwhelming. And if a system isn’t developed, it’s easy for a new mom to get stressed out by it all.
Hire her an organizer to come over and straighten it all out and develop a system that works for her.
While I doubt you can land the Home Edit, many cities have organizers that do a pretty good job.
7. Parenting Class
Parenting comes with a lot of new challenges. There is sleep, feeding, discipline, and breastfeeding to name a few.
Give a new mom the gift of a parenting class to navigate through those hard times during parenting.
Search Instagram for a few of my favorites:
Parenting comes with a lot of new challenges. There is sleep, feeding, discipline, and breastfeeding to name a few.
Give a new mom the gift of a parenting class to navigate through those hard times during parenting.
Search Instagram for a few of my favorites:
- TakingCaraBabies
- BigLittleFeelings
- Kids.Eat.In.Color
- FeedingLittles
- SafeInTheSeat
- BusyToddler
- DaysofGrey
- DrBeckyAtGoodInside
- TheMomPsychologist
8. General Gift Cards
General gift cards to stores like Target, WalMart, or grocery stores are nice to have as a new mom, so she can easily go out and purchase whatever and whenever she needs it.
Visa gift cards work as well!
General gift cards to stores like Target, WalMart, or grocery stores are nice to have as a new mom, so she can easily go out and purchase whatever and whenever she needs it.
Visa gift cards work as well!
9. Babysitting
Offer babysitting services to a new mom. Whether she just needs an hour to run to Target unencumbered or wants to have a date night with her husband, babysitting services won’t go unneeded.
Give her a coupon saying that you will babysit and then let her cash in for when she needs you.
Offer babysitting services to a new mom. Whether she just needs an hour to run to Target unencumbered or wants to have a date night with her husband, babysitting services won’t go unneeded.
Give her a coupon saying that you will babysit and then let her cash in for when she needs you.
SELF-CARE GIFTS
1. Spa Gift Cards
New moms deserve to be pampered after giving birth. Their bodies just spent over 9 months making a baby and then they had to go through labor and delivery.
They need a massage. Or facial. Or both. Get them a spa gift card.
1. Spa Gift Cards
New moms deserve to be pampered after giving birth. Their bodies just spent over 9 months making a baby and then they had to go through labor and delivery.
They need a massage. Or facial. Or both. Get them a spa gift card.
2. At Home Spa
Likewise, you can get new moms at home spa kits complete with nail polish, face masks, bath bombs, aromas, lotions, and foot scrubs.
They can pamper themselves whenever they want without ever having to leave the house.
Likewise, you can get new moms at home spa kits complete with nail polish, face masks, bath bombs, aromas, lotions, and foot scrubs.
They can pamper themselves whenever they want without ever having to leave the house.
3. A Nap or Shower
Gifts for new moms don’t have to be elaborate and expensive. Simply, volunteer to come over and give her a break to shower or nap.
Show up to her house (invited of course) and tell her you got the baby and to go do whatever she needs.
Gifts for new moms don’t have to be elaborate and expensive. Simply, volunteer to come over and give her a break to shower or nap.
Show up to her house (invited of course) and tell her you got the baby and to go do whatever she needs.
4. Baby Yoga Class
I did this with my son when he was a baby, and I loved it. It got me out of the house. It got me moving, breathing, relaxing, and connecting with other moms.
Everyone had a baby who cried at some point, so there was no shame or judgment.
This is a good self-care activity for a new mom after she gives birth.
I did this with my son when he was a baby, and I loved it. It got me out of the house. It got me moving, breathing, relaxing, and connecting with other moms.
Everyone had a baby who cried at some point, so there was no shame or judgment.
This is a good self-care activity for a new mom after she gives birth.
5. Staycation
A mom who just had a baby will crave a night or two alone at some point in the baby’s first years or years to come.
Book her a hotel that is close by, so she doesn’t feel anxious about being far away from the baby if needed. Arrange for babysitting too if her partner can’t do it.
A mom who just had a baby will crave a night or two alone at some point in the baby’s first years or years to come.
Book her a hotel that is close by, so she doesn’t feel anxious about being far away from the baby if needed. Arrange for babysitting too if her partner can’t do it.
6. Streaming Service
A new mom might be home a lot. And while newborns are cute, they don’t provide much of a companion, and they sleep a lot.
A streaming service would be helpful during those times. Offer to pay for one for a couple months, so she can binge her favorite ones.
A new mom might be home a lot. And while newborns are cute, they don’t provide much of a companion, and they sleep a lot.
A streaming service would be helpful during those times. Offer to pay for one for a couple months, so she can binge her favorite ones.
7. Books
In the same vein, I had a lot of time to read after I became a new mom. I really enjoyed it. Gift a new mom after she’s had a baby with books - whether that be a paperback or hardcover book from a book store, a book of the month, a supply from the library, a subscription to Audible, or if she has a kindle, a gift card to Amazon.
In the same vein, I had a lot of time to read after I became a new mom. I really enjoyed it. Gift a new mom after she’s had a baby with books - whether that be a paperback or hardcover book from a book store, a book of the month, a supply from the library, a subscription to Audible, or if she has a kindle, a gift card to Amazon.
FRIENDSHIP GIFTS
1. Sitting With Her
Motherhood can be terribly lonely in this day and age. We don’t live in such close proximity to family and friends as we used to. People are more isolated indoors.
Just coming over to sit and chat with a new mother is a very low-stress, pressure free gift that is priceless.
She will be thankful for the companionship and the adult conversation.
2. Take Her Out to Lunch
Likewise, you can take a new mother out to lunch, so she can have the companionship and adult conversation while getting out of the house to get some fresh air with an extra set of hands to help her with the baby.
Take her lunch at a lowkey, casual establishment in case the baby gets fussy.
Likewise, you can take a new mother out to lunch, so she can have the companionship and adult conversation while getting out of the house to get some fresh air with an extra set of hands to help her with the baby.
Take her lunch at a lowkey, casual establishment in case the baby gets fussy.
3. Mom Groups/Baby and Me Classes
Sign her up for a Mom’s Support Group or a Baby and Me class where she can connect and chat with other mothers.
After I had my son, I did a Baby and Me fitness class and went to breastfeeding support groups. It’s nice to be able to ask questions and meet other moms who are going through what you’re going through too.
Sign her up for a Mom’s Support Group or a Baby and Me class where she can connect and chat with other mothers.
After I had my son, I did a Baby and Me fitness class and went to breastfeeding support groups. It’s nice to be able to ask questions and meet other moms who are going through what you’re going through too.
SENSE OF IDENTITY GIFTS
1. Journal
A nice journal will help a new mom write down her thoughts and feelings along with what she did each day with the baby.
It will be nice to have that memory looking back.
1. Journal
A nice journal will help a new mom write down her thoughts and feelings along with what she did each day with the baby.
It will be nice to have that memory looking back.
2. Fair Play
Fair Play is a book written by Eve Rodsky. The book also inspired a card game to play with your partner
Taken straight from Fair Play’s website:
Tired of being the “she-fault” parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family—and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was . . . underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn’t enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it.
The result is Fair Play: a time-and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up domestic responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a figurative card game you play with your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what’s important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinner.
Fair Play can help new moms find their unicorn space and divide the mental load with their partners, so they aren’t so burnt out.
Fair Play is a book written by Eve Rodsky. The book also inspired a card game to play with your partner
Taken straight from Fair Play’s website:
Tired of being the “she-fault” parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family—and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was . . . underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn’t enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it.
The result is Fair Play: a time-and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up domestic responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a figurative card game you play with your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what’s important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinner.
Fair Play can help new moms find their unicorn space and divide the mental load with their partners, so they aren’t so burnt out.
These gifts will help a new mom after she gives birth fill up her emotional registry.
Remember that these gifts can be spread out over a couple months instead of her getting flooded with gifts in the first two weeks and then she has to flounder alone the rest of her baby's first year.
New moms need love and support.
Remember that these gifts can be spread out over a couple months instead of her getting flooded with gifts in the first two weeks and then she has to flounder alone the rest of her baby's first year.
New moms need love and support.
| | Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists. |
If you’re an outdoor mom like myself, you might be wondering how to get your kids interested in the outdoors and how to raise outdoors-loving kids.
Being out in nature and going on hikes are important to me. I wanted to instill that love for the outdoors in my kids - especially hiking in the mountains.
Why?
1.) The mountains are one of my favorite places to be.
2.) Hiking is one of my favorite activities to do.
3.) Being out in nature is healing and so good for cognitive development in both adults and kids.
But you might be yelling at your computer screen as you read this, “Lauren, how do I go hiking with kids? It seems impossible.”
Luckily, I got you covered with some tried and true parenting tips for hiking with kids that’ll leave your kids begging to get out into the mountains every weekend.
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
But first…
Being out in nature and going on hikes are important to me. I wanted to instill that love for the outdoors in my kids - especially hiking in the mountains.
Why?
1.) The mountains are one of my favorite places to be.
2.) Hiking is one of my favorite activities to do.
3.) Being out in nature is healing and so good for cognitive development in both adults and kids.
But you might be yelling at your computer screen as you read this, “Lauren, how do I go hiking with kids? It seems impossible.”
Luckily, I got you covered with some tried and true parenting tips for hiking with kids that’ll leave your kids begging to get out into the mountains every weekend.
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
But first…
Hiking with Kids Backpacks
If you’re looking to be equipped with the best gear on your hike, here are some Amazon’s best kids backpacks for hikes.
*But full transparency - I usually just carry a drawstring backpack right from the closet*
If you’re looking to be equipped with the best gear on your hike, here are some Amazon’s best kids backpacks for hikes.
*But full transparency - I usually just carry a drawstring backpack right from the closet*
- CamelBak Mini M.U.L.E. Kids Hydration Backpack, 50 oz
- Vibrelli Hydration Pack & 2L Hydration Water Bladder - High Flow Bite Valve
- 10L Small Size Waterproof Kids Sport Backpack
- Sinotron 22L Lightweight Packable Hiking Backpack
- Sunhiker Small Cycling Hiking Backpack Water Resistant Travel Backpack Lightweight Daypack M0714
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Hiking with Kids Carrier
Once kids reach 2 or older, I firmly believe that they should spend most of the hike - well hiking instead of being carried. But in case they get tired or you reach a dangerous spot, here are some of the best kids carriers from Amazon.
Once kids reach 2 or older, I firmly believe that they should spend most of the hike - well hiking instead of being carried. But in case they get tired or you reach a dangerous spot, here are some of the best kids carriers from Amazon.
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Hiking with kids checklists
Looking to know what to take when hiking with kids, here is my go to checklist of all the essentials I make sure I have when hiking. This is obviously an exhaustive list, and you definitely don’t need to take all of these things every time you go on a hike.
Ranked by priority.
Looking to know what to take when hiking with kids, here is my go to checklist of all the essentials I make sure I have when hiking. This is obviously an exhaustive list, and you definitely don’t need to take all of these things every time you go on a hike.
Ranked by priority.
- Water bottles
- Snacks (crackers, trail mix, granola bars, apple slices) - preferably something I can give a little bit at a time
- Phone with camera
- Preferably a trail map if we lose cell and internet service
- Wipes and/or hand sanitizer
- Sunscreen for hot, sunny days
- Layers of clothing
- Hat and sunglasses
- Tissues
- Trash or plastic bags
- Extra pair of socks or shoes if going to get wet or muddy
- Bandaids and other first aid supplies
- Whistle for yelling for help
- Important phone numbers and addresses
- Swiss army knife
- Binoculars
- Nature or trail book
- Paper, pencil, and baggies for documenting and collecting finds.
4 Useful Parenting Tips for Hiking With Kids in the Mountains:
Now that you have all the appropriate hiking with kids gear packed and ready to go, you might be wondering - “Okay, but how do I actually get them to hike?”
Read on for four useful parenting tips when hiking with kids.
Now that you have all the appropriate hiking with kids gear packed and ready to go, you might be wondering - “Okay, but how do I actually get them to hike?”
Read on for four useful parenting tips when hiking with kids.
1. Give kids responsibilities
Kids like to feel important, especially younger ones. That's the reason why I suggest giving them a responsibility while hiking - something that makes them feel important.
I like to give my son the responsibility of staying on the trail.
“Okay, your job is to make sure we are going the right way on the path. This is very important.”
A lot of trails, especially in the mountains, have some type of marker to indicate you are going the right way.
Maybe it is a colored shape (orange diamond, blue circle) fixated on the trees. It could be a sign with an arrow. It could be the rock formations called cairns (pronounced Care-in). It could be a log drilled into the ground to act as a step.
Whatever it is you can tell your child to find the next one to make sure you are going the right way. Really play this up and praise your child for finding the next one every time.
“Wow, you found it! I didn’t see it. Thanks to you we aren’t getting lost!”
Other responsibilities can be
Establish responsibilities at the beginning of the trip and take them seriously.
But obviously if your kids want to abandon ship and just leisurely hike, that is fine too!
Kids like to feel important, especially younger ones. That's the reason why I suggest giving them a responsibility while hiking - something that makes them feel important.
I like to give my son the responsibility of staying on the trail.
“Okay, your job is to make sure we are going the right way on the path. This is very important.”
A lot of trails, especially in the mountains, have some type of marker to indicate you are going the right way.
Maybe it is a colored shape (orange diamond, blue circle) fixated on the trees. It could be a sign with an arrow. It could be the rock formations called cairns (pronounced Care-in). It could be a log drilled into the ground to act as a step.
Whatever it is you can tell your child to find the next one to make sure you are going the right way. Really play this up and praise your child for finding the next one every time.
“Wow, you found it! I didn’t see it. Thanks to you we aren’t getting lost!”
Other responsibilities can be
- Finding artifacts to collect on the hike
- Keeping track of the wildlife you saw
- Carrying one of the backpacks
- Doling out snacks and water
- Photographing your hike
Establish responsibilities at the beginning of the trip and take them seriously.
But obviously if your kids want to abandon ship and just leisurely hike, that is fine too!
2. Have an incentive
Over time, our goal is to have the hike be incentive enough, but at first, you might need to give your kids an incentive to keep them going.
For example, recently we were doing a waterfall loop hike. There were three waterfalls on our hike. I told our son that once we got to a waterfall we would stop to have a cracker.
After certain designated checkpoints or time frames, you can offer your child an incentive. Snacks, treats, stickers, or something fun.
Phrase the incentive as a first-then statement.
“First, we reach the waterfall. Then, we will have a snack.”
Adults need to reward themselves too when they exercise. Kids are the same, so offer incentives.
Over time, our goal is to have the hike be incentive enough, but at first, you might need to give your kids an incentive to keep them going.
For example, recently we were doing a waterfall loop hike. There were three waterfalls on our hike. I told our son that once we got to a waterfall we would stop to have a cracker.
After certain designated checkpoints or time frames, you can offer your child an incentive. Snacks, treats, stickers, or something fun.
Phrase the incentive as a first-then statement.
“First, we reach the waterfall. Then, we will have a snack.”
Adults need to reward themselves too when they exercise. Kids are the same, so offer incentives.
3. Go at their pace
It’s important to remember to manage your expectations when going on a hike. Keep the hike relatively short and go at your child’s pace.
Let your child stop to discover things, touch things, and point out things. All of those things are learning.
They are learning about the world and how things work when they throw a rock or leaf into a stream.
They are learning about the world when they try to balance on a log.
They are learning about the world when they pick up sticks and walk with them.
So go at their pace.
It’s important to remember to manage your expectations when going on a hike. Keep the hike relatively short and go at your child’s pace.
Let your child stop to discover things, touch things, and point out things. All of those things are learning.
They are learning about the world and how things work when they throw a rock or leaf into a stream.
They are learning about the world when they try to balance on a log.
They are learning about the world when they pick up sticks and walk with them.
So go at their pace.
4. Choose the right trail
When hiking with your kids, it is important to choose the right trail for them. Here are some of my criteria I consider when hiking with my son:
Once you have established your criteria, you can choose a trail that is just right for your kids.
When hiking with your kids, it is important to choose the right trail for them. Here are some of my criteria I consider when hiking with my son:
- How long is the trail? For me, it is important to keep it under 3 miles.
- Where is the trail? I prefer a trail in the mountains or woods as it won’t be as hot or sunny for my son.
- Is there water? Will we be hiking to or near water? My son likes a water feature. It keeps him more engaged, so I prefer a trail that has water.
- What is the elevation? Are there too many uphills and downhills? Both of those can be rough for my son. However, I like a trail that has some uphills and downhills as it provides an element of challenge that is good to teach my son about perseverance.
- Is it safe? Obviously, I have to keep this in mind when hiking. Is the trail too close to a ledge? Is there a chance of dangerous animals? Is the trail too deserted?
Once you have established your criteria, you can choose a trail that is just right for your kids.
Wrapping Up
Now that you have these useful tips for hiking with your kids, you can now get outdoors and enjoy nature. Please comment below some of your favorite trails to hike with your kids. I’d love to hear all about them.
Now that you have these useful tips for hiking with your kids, you can now get outdoors and enjoy nature. Please comment below some of your favorite trails to hike with your kids. I’d love to hear all about them.
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Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists.
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For my Spring Break this year, I wanted to get out into nature.
For starters, nature is very healing. I love hiking. And I'm trying to get to all of the National Parks.
We were traveling with our 3-year old son, so I knew that we needed to find some kid-friendly activities to do with him outside.
Starting from a young age, I made sure my son had lots of opportunities for outdoor play because it's so good for his cognitive development.
I also wanted to instill a love for hiking, nature, and national parks in him.
Living in Raleigh for 10 years and still never going to Great Smoky Mountains National Park, I knew that we had to go there.
In my research, I found Bryson City - home of the Great Smoky Mountains Railroad (GSMR). Bingo.
Bryson City was perfect. My son loves trains. The National Park was close by. And there were plenty of kid-friendly activities.
After spending 3 days, 4 nights there I came up with 6 of the best outdoor activities to do with kids in Bryson City.
For starters, nature is very healing. I love hiking. And I'm trying to get to all of the National Parks.
We were traveling with our 3-year old son, so I knew that we needed to find some kid-friendly activities to do with him outside.
Starting from a young age, I made sure my son had lots of opportunities for outdoor play because it's so good for his cognitive development.
I also wanted to instill a love for hiking, nature, and national parks in him.
Living in Raleigh for 10 years and still never going to Great Smoky Mountains National Park, I knew that we had to go there.
In my research, I found Bryson City - home of the Great Smoky Mountains Railroad (GSMR). Bingo.
Bryson City was perfect. My son loves trains. The National Park was close by. And there were plenty of kid-friendly activities.
After spending 3 days, 4 nights there I came up with 6 of the best outdoor activities to do with kids in Bryson City.
1. Nantahala Brewing
I bet you are wondering how a brewing company is one of the best kid-friendly activities in Bryson City but hear me out.
We arrived to our AirBNB on Sunday afternoon. After unpacking, we were in walking distance to this brewery located near downtown and right by the train tracks.
We were pleasantly surprised to find out how kid-friendly this brewery was.
We got a table outside, and our son was free to roam the gigantic green field at his own leisure.
There was a fence that prevented him from wandering off. We had an eye on him the whole time. And there were kid bikes and tricycles with which he could play.
What's even better that on any given night, you will be sure to find other kids running around and playing.
The food was delicious. The beer was refreshing. The atmosphere was perfect. The view was picturesque. And kids could play outside endlessly.
So that's why this is one of the best outdoor activities for kids in Bryson City.
I bet you are wondering how a brewing company is one of the best kid-friendly activities in Bryson City but hear me out.
We arrived to our AirBNB on Sunday afternoon. After unpacking, we were in walking distance to this brewery located near downtown and right by the train tracks.
We were pleasantly surprised to find out how kid-friendly this brewery was.
We got a table outside, and our son was free to roam the gigantic green field at his own leisure.
There was a fence that prevented him from wandering off. We had an eye on him the whole time. And there were kid bikes and tricycles with which he could play.
What's even better that on any given night, you will be sure to find other kids running around and playing.
The food was delicious. The beer was refreshing. The atmosphere was perfect. The view was picturesque. And kids could play outside endlessly.
So that's why this is one of the best outdoor activities for kids in Bryson City.
2. Deep Creek Waterfall Loop
Only about a 7 minute drive from Bryson City, the Deep Creek playground is located right inside of the Great Smoky Mountains National Park.
On a hot, summer day you can swim, tube, and fish in this area.
But since we went in the early Spring, it was too cold for all of that, but we did enjoy the Waterfall Loop.
The Waterfall Loop is about 2.2 miles and was just on the cusp on how long a 3-year old can hike.
But what is nice is that there are 3 waterfall destinations that we used as incentive for our son to keep going.
The first waterfall we hiked to was Juney Whank Falls, and it was the steepest hike to get to, which I'm glad we did first. But, in my opinion, the prettiest.
The second one was Tom Branch Falls which was relatively flat to hike to. There was a steep-ish decline at one point in the hike. Our son enjoyed hiking crab style during this point.
The last falls was Indian Creek Falls. And at this point, we decided to turn around instead of completing the entire loop (.3 miles shorter).
Here are some ways that we get our son to hike:
Only about a 7 minute drive from Bryson City, the Deep Creek playground is located right inside of the Great Smoky Mountains National Park.
On a hot, summer day you can swim, tube, and fish in this area.
But since we went in the early Spring, it was too cold for all of that, but we did enjoy the Waterfall Loop.
The Waterfall Loop is about 2.2 miles and was just on the cusp on how long a 3-year old can hike.
But what is nice is that there are 3 waterfall destinations that we used as incentive for our son to keep going.
The first waterfall we hiked to was Juney Whank Falls, and it was the steepest hike to get to, which I'm glad we did first. But, in my opinion, the prettiest.
The second one was Tom Branch Falls which was relatively flat to hike to. There was a steep-ish decline at one point in the hike. Our son enjoyed hiking crab style during this point.
The last falls was Indian Creek Falls. And at this point, we decided to turn around instead of completing the entire loop (.3 miles shorter).
Here are some ways that we get our son to hike:
- We give him a goal. (Find the diamonds that keep us on the trail)
- We go at his pace and allow him to stop to discover things (throwing rocks in the water) because it's so good for his brain development.
- We take frequent breaks.
- He gets some sort of incentive for reaching certain destinations (a cracker when he arrives at each waterfall).
- We take multiple pictures, so we can look back and talk about our adventure.
3. Downtown Bryson City
Downtown Bryson City is relatively small, but it's a quaint and good outdoor activity for kids to do.
Just walking around and exploring the multiple shops and restaurants is enough for a kid to explore. *There are a lot of ice cream and dessert places*
Kids can wander onto the multiple trains and cabooses located throughout downtown. They can walk around Island Park or Riverfront Park which are both right by the Tuckasegee River - close enough for kids to play in the dirt, mud, and river.
That's why I think downtown Bryson City is one of the best outdoor activities for kids.
Downtown Bryson City is relatively small, but it's a quaint and good outdoor activity for kids to do.
Just walking around and exploring the multiple shops and restaurants is enough for a kid to explore. *There are a lot of ice cream and dessert places*
Kids can wander onto the multiple trains and cabooses located throughout downtown. They can walk around Island Park or Riverfront Park which are both right by the Tuckasegee River - close enough for kids to play in the dirt, mud, and river.
That's why I think downtown Bryson City is one of the best outdoor activities for kids.
4. Great Smoky Mountain Railroad
The Great Smoky Mountain Railroad (GSMR) was the whole reason we came to Bryson City. My son LOVES trains!
So technically, you are inside of a train and not outside, but there are many aspects of the train that are outside.
We boarded the train at 10 AM and left promptly at 10:30 PM from Bryson City. We opted for the prepackaged lunches which we picked up ahead of time.
Our trip was the Nantahala Gorge Excursion. Some details about it:
We did the Coach Class and could open the windows pretty wide, which made us feel like we were outside with the air and breeze whipping in our faces.
We had views of the Great Smoky Mountains National Park - mountains, lakes, gorges, rivers, and rocks.
Our layover at the Nantahala Gorge was neat. We were right by the river and the rapids (Henry called them bunnies. Rapids=rabbits=bunnies in a toddler's mind).
You can go white-water rafting and kayaking there. There was also a tree house adventure for kids and adults ages 3 and up. A lot of those things are closed until warmer weather.
During the hour wait, Henry loved throwing rocks into the river while we sipped beers from the nearby restaurant.
Overall, we left the train excursion with lots of memories and a souvenir picture (more like $35 lol).
Also, getting back to Bryson City, we visited the train museum which had model train displays - so cool! Henry wanted to buy all the trains, but wow, they costs like $200+ a piece!
I definitely recommend this adventure for kids.
The Great Smoky Mountain Railroad (GSMR) was the whole reason we came to Bryson City. My son LOVES trains!
So technically, you are inside of a train and not outside, but there are many aspects of the train that are outside.
We boarded the train at 10 AM and left promptly at 10:30 PM from Bryson City. We opted for the prepackaged lunches which we picked up ahead of time.
Our trip was the Nantahala Gorge Excursion. Some details about it:
- 4 1/2 hour roundtrip
- The trip carries you 44 miles to the Nantahala Gorge.
- You get an hour layover at the Nantahala Gorge
- You can choose from three services: Crown Class, Coach Class, and Open Air Gondola
We did the Coach Class and could open the windows pretty wide, which made us feel like we were outside with the air and breeze whipping in our faces.
We had views of the Great Smoky Mountains National Park - mountains, lakes, gorges, rivers, and rocks.
Our layover at the Nantahala Gorge was neat. We were right by the river and the rapids (Henry called them bunnies. Rapids=rabbits=bunnies in a toddler's mind).
You can go white-water rafting and kayaking there. There was also a tree house adventure for kids and adults ages 3 and up. A lot of those things are closed until warmer weather.
During the hour wait, Henry loved throwing rocks into the river while we sipped beers from the nearby restaurant.
Overall, we left the train excursion with lots of memories and a souvenir picture (more like $35 lol).
Also, getting back to Bryson City, we visited the train museum which had model train displays - so cool! Henry wanted to buy all the trains, but wow, they costs like $200+ a piece!
I definitely recommend this adventure for kids.
5. Clingmans Dome
The highest point in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park, Clingmans Dome is a .5 incline to the top.
We drove an hour from Bryson City to the parking lot. Thank goodness for the Visitor's Store where we bought like $100 of warm clothes because we didn't realize the temperature would drop so much.
Call me crazy, but we opted against the odds to push Henry up in the stroller. I had seen mixed reviews of people saying it was doable vs. not doable.
I did it. It was hard. But I did it. I think it was manageable because I knew it was only .5 miles.
We got to the top and the fog blocked most of the views, but it was still cool and a feat I'm glad I accomplished.
Henry walked the way down which was good because it was so steep and a little slippery.
We walked on part of the Appalachian Trail and did another short hike.
This is such a good outdoor activity because of its access to multiple trails and challenge to the top.
The highest point in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park, Clingmans Dome is a .5 incline to the top.
We drove an hour from Bryson City to the parking lot. Thank goodness for the Visitor's Store where we bought like $100 of warm clothes because we didn't realize the temperature would drop so much.
Call me crazy, but we opted against the odds to push Henry up in the stroller. I had seen mixed reviews of people saying it was doable vs. not doable.
I did it. It was hard. But I did it. I think it was manageable because I knew it was only .5 miles.
We got to the top and the fog blocked most of the views, but it was still cool and a feat I'm glad I accomplished.
Henry walked the way down which was good because it was so steep and a little slippery.
We walked on part of the Appalachian Trail and did another short hike.
This is such a good outdoor activity because of its access to multiple trails and challenge to the top.
6. The Road to Nowhere
The Road to Nowhere is literally that. Read about its history here.
Located about 15 minutes from Bryson City in the Great Smoky Mountain National Park, we drove until we reached the tunnel - that's where the road ends. You can park in the nearby parking lot.
We brought Henry's bike, and he had fun riding his bike through the tunnel until the road ended. You don't have to worry about any cars.
There are trails and hikes you can do in the area too.
Plus overlooks of Fontana Lake.
I recommend bringing training bikes or tricyles if you have toddlers or preschoolers. It's a perfect place to practice riding.
The Road to Nowhere is literally that. Read about its history here.
Located about 15 minutes from Bryson City in the Great Smoky Mountain National Park, we drove until we reached the tunnel - that's where the road ends. You can park in the nearby parking lot.
We brought Henry's bike, and he had fun riding his bike through the tunnel until the road ended. You don't have to worry about any cars.
There are trails and hikes you can do in the area too.
Plus overlooks of Fontana Lake.
I recommend bringing training bikes or tricyles if you have toddlers or preschoolers. It's a perfect place to practice riding.
Overall, Bryson City is a great place to bring kids to do outdoor activities and explore nature. I'm really glad we went.
| | Lauren Barrett is a multi-passionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists. |
Taking my son to church is important to us as a family. We wanted him to be exposed to the mass from a young age.
However….
It hasn’t been easy.
My toddler, like most toddlers, is playful, full of energy, and unaware of the societal norms of sitting quietly for long periods of time while someone else talks. It was hard to get him to be quiet at church and learn to behave.
We tried different quiet church activities such as toys, books, and snacks that we could drag out for as long as possible; however, these things would only last for roughly the first half of church.
He would then convert to a restless, loud toddler who would demand to leave our seat, pew, or even the entire building.
I didn’t want my toddler to build up a hatred each week for going to church, so I dug into my toolkit of positive parenting strategies and put them to use to see what works for parents who want their kids to behave at church.
What I found were three quick and easy parenting tips that can work with any parents who want their kids to be quiet at church (at least for most of the time).
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However….
It hasn’t been easy.
My toddler, like most toddlers, is playful, full of energy, and unaware of the societal norms of sitting quietly for long periods of time while someone else talks. It was hard to get him to be quiet at church and learn to behave.
We tried different quiet church activities such as toys, books, and snacks that we could drag out for as long as possible; however, these things would only last for roughly the first half of church.
He would then convert to a restless, loud toddler who would demand to leave our seat, pew, or even the entire building.
I didn’t want my toddler to build up a hatred each week for going to church, so I dug into my toolkit of positive parenting strategies and put them to use to see what works for parents who want their kids to behave at church.
What I found were three quick and easy parenting tips that can work with any parents who want their kids to be quiet at church (at least for most of the time).
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
Effective Strategies to Teach Your Kids to Behave at Church
1. Prep
Kids, especially toddlers, like predictability and when they can know what to expect. Therefore, the more prep we can do ahead of time for church, the more likely our son is to know how to behave there.
Parents can prep by doing a number of things…
Kids, especially toddlers, like predictability and when they can know what to expect. Therefore, the more prep we can do ahead of time for church, the more likely our son is to know how to behave there.
Parents can prep by doing a number of things…
- They can read books about church.
- They can mark on a calendar when church is and point it out regularly or even by doing a countdown.
- They can talk about church consistently.
- They can role play with stuffed animals and dolls about what to do at church. They can model appropriate and inappropriate behaviors, like how to be quiet a church, with the stuffed animals.
2. Check marks
Check marks on the hand are a big hit with kids. They feel proud of themselves when they get them.
We divide the mass into 5 parts. If our toddler meets expectations, he gets a checkmark after each part. We talk about the check marks before and after church and compare them week to week.
Check marks on the hand are a big hit with kids. They feel proud of themselves when they get them.
We divide the mass into 5 parts. If our toddler meets expectations, he gets a checkmark after each part. We talk about the check marks before and after church and compare them week to week.
3. Gossip
Not all gossip is bad, especially when it comes to your kids'. After church you’re going to call some of your kids’ favorite characters (Trash Truck and Pete the Cat for my son), especially if they got 4-5 check marks, and “gossip” about your toddler at church.
The key is to pretend that you don’t know your kid is listening and to be as dramatic as possible with your gossiping - dramatic whisper and trying to hide your face.
“Pssttt….hey Trash Truck! I’m just calling to tell you about *son’s name.* He did so well at church. He prayed to Jesus. He listened to the priest. He shared his toys. He got 5 check marks. Can you believe that?”
Your little one will eat this up and want you to continue to have you gossip to his friends every week after church.
Not all gossip is bad, especially when it comes to your kids'. After church you’re going to call some of your kids’ favorite characters (Trash Truck and Pete the Cat for my son), especially if they got 4-5 check marks, and “gossip” about your toddler at church.
The key is to pretend that you don’t know your kid is listening and to be as dramatic as possible with your gossiping - dramatic whisper and trying to hide your face.
“Pssttt….hey Trash Truck! I’m just calling to tell you about *son’s name.* He did so well at church. He prayed to Jesus. He listened to the priest. He shared his toys. He got 5 check marks. Can you believe that?”
Your little one will eat this up and want you to continue to have you gossip to his friends every week after church.
7 Best Toys to Take to Church That are (Semi) Quiet
1. Magnatiles
2. Magnetic church
3. Interactive church book
4. Activity books
5. Whiteboard and markers
6. Sticker book
7. Paint with water
2. Magnetic church
3. Interactive church book
4. Activity books
5. Whiteboard and markers
6. Sticker book
7. Paint with water
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Wrapping It Up
We want our kids to have a positive experience going to church and to continue growing in their relationship with God.
These easy parenting tips are just a few for parents to try to help their toddlers feel excited to go to church and be quiet.
Sign up to get my positive parenting checklists for free and check out my parenting guide, Now What?, for 70+ strategies.
We want our kids to have a positive experience going to church and to continue growing in their relationship with God.
These easy parenting tips are just a few for parents to try to help their toddlers feel excited to go to church and be quiet.
Sign up to get my positive parenting checklists for free and check out my parenting guide, Now What?, for 70+ strategies.
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Lauren Barrett is a mult-ipassionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists.
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Are you looking for Easter basket ideas other than stuffing it full of candy?
Alternatives to Easter baskets are not always easy to find. The aisles are often covered in Easter candy and plastic eggs.
Or you find elaborate Easter basket ideas all over Pinterest which look as if you need a home economics, marketing, and photography degree to pull off how nice these baskets look.
And while I’m not against candy and pretty pictures that look good on Instagram (seriously, no hate, I’m impressed with moms who this is their thing), I’m a Lazy Mom who will probably wait until the last minute to throw something together.
I want easy ideas.
Since I’m a teacher who always wants to promote literacy for preschoolers, I’m probably going to add a book (along with some candy).
Then, I thought why don’t I add an easy literacy activity to go into the Easter basket to promote preschool literacy even more.
So viola, I have 5 easy Easter basket ideas for lazy moms to promote preschool literacy.
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
Alternatives to Easter baskets are not always easy to find. The aisles are often covered in Easter candy and plastic eggs.
Or you find elaborate Easter basket ideas all over Pinterest which look as if you need a home economics, marketing, and photography degree to pull off how nice these baskets look.
And while I’m not against candy and pretty pictures that look good on Instagram (seriously, no hate, I’m impressed with moms who this is their thing), I’m a Lazy Mom who will probably wait until the last minute to throw something together.
I want easy ideas.
Since I’m a teacher who always wants to promote literacy for preschoolers, I’m probably going to add a book (along with some candy).
Then, I thought why don’t I add an easy literacy activity to go into the Easter basket to promote preschool literacy even more.
So viola, I have 5 easy Easter basket ideas for lazy moms to promote preschool literacy.
Lauren Barrett Writes is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program. As an Amazon Associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Read more about these links in my disclosure policy.
5 Easy Easter Basket Ideas for Lazy Moms to Promote Preschool Literacy
#1 Pete the Cat Easter Basket
Pete the Cat is a fan favorite in our household. We love his vibe.
“It’s all good.”
Pete the Cat wouldn’t care about intricate, picture-perfect Easter baskets. He would like simple, feel-good Easter basket ideas and probably one of his books to go with it.
So what can you add besides candy?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
Will you preschooler cry over your lazy mom attempt to fill an Easter basket?
Goodness no. They will just keep on playing.
“It’s all good.”
Pete the Cat wouldn’t care about intricate, picture-perfect Easter baskets. He would like simple, feel-good Easter basket ideas and probably one of his books to go with it.
So what can you add besides candy?
- One of Pete the Cat’s many books. My suggestion isPete the Cat: I Love My White Shoes
- Pete the Cat stuffed animal
- 1-2 pairs of cheap white shoes
- Water color paint
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
- Read the book.
- Role play with Pete the Cat.
- Put different color paint on paper plates and have your child recreate Pete’s walk in his white shoes.
- Rinse and repeat
Will you preschooler cry over your lazy mom attempt to fill an Easter basket?
Goodness no. They will just keep on playing.
#2 Little Blue Truck Easter Basket
Beep, Beep, Beep. Easter’s here. What can you fill your kid’s basket with that will bring them cheer?
Little Blue Truck, course. Another favorite in our house.
What are some easy alternatives to fill your preschooler’s Easter basket?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
Now you are in luck. Your kid will love his basket with Little Blue Truck.
Little Blue Truck, course. Another favorite in our house.
What are some easy alternatives to fill your preschooler’s Easter basket?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
- Read the book.
- After reading the book, step outside into Little Blue Truck's world and recreate the drive he went on in the story.
- Have your little one hop into his own mode of transportation: the stroller, Cozy Coupe, Power Wheels, or a tricycle.
- Or do make-believe with his own little blue truck.
- Along the way, Blue sees Sheep, Duck, Goat, Cow, Pig, Bunny, and Hen. You, too, will place stuffed animals or plastic toys of these animals throughout your yard or neighborhood.
- As you go on your stroll, stop to collect the animals and talk about what sounds they make. Have them hop into your car with you.
- Use this guide to check off what you have seen.
Now you are in luck. Your kid will love his basket with Little Blue Truck.
#3 Henry’s Hiccups Easter Basket
Give your child the gift of communication this Easter season by doing a Henry’s Hiccups Easter basket.
Henry loves school until he encounters a problem. He can’t get rid of his hiccups.
He tries a number of ways to get rid of them, but no matter what he does, his hiccups keep getting in the way of correctly answering the teacher’s questions.
That is until he discovers a new way of answering questions without speaking – sign language.
What are some of the best ideas for an Easter basket to promote literacy?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
Your little preschooler’s communication will be blooming in no time with this Easter basket idea.
Henry loves school until he encounters a problem. He can’t get rid of his hiccups.
He tries a number of ways to get rid of them, but no matter what he does, his hiccups keep getting in the way of correctly answering the teacher’s questions.
That is until he discovers a new way of answering questions without speaking – sign language.
What are some of the best ideas for an Easter basket to promote literacy?
- A copy of Henry’s Hiccups
- These cute, inclusive dolls representing some of the characters in the book.
- A sign language resource guide
- Sign language posters if you’re feeling extra
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
- Read the story.
- Download this discussion guide for question prompts about the story.
- Download these coloring sheets.
- Watch the story in sign language.
- Get some language lesson plans.
- Teach your child some sign language!
Your little preschooler’s communication will be blooming in no time with this Easter basket idea.
#4 Pout, Pout Fish Easter Basket
Deep in your basket
Where candy hangs out
Will now be a fantastic, funny treat
Your kids can read all about.
Spice up your preschooler’s Easter basket with this easy idea.
The Pout, Pout Fish.
Kids love his gloominess and rhyming ways. And the book makes a great way to promote literacy.
What are some of the easiest ideas for an Easter basket to promote literacy?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
Your little one will be doing anything but pouting after she gets this Easter basket.
Where candy hangs out
Will now be a fantastic, funny treat
Your kids can read all about.
Spice up your preschooler’s Easter basket with this easy idea.
The Pout, Pout Fish.
Kids love his gloominess and rhyming ways. And the book makes a great way to promote literacy.
What are some of the easiest ideas for an Easter basket to promote literacy?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
- Read the story.
- Create an under the water sensory bin.
- Use a wet paintbrush to write words from the story.
Your little one will be doing anything but pouting after she gets this Easter basket.
#5 Piggie and Gerald Easter Basket
Piggie! Gerald!
What better idea for an easy Easter basket than no other than a Piggie and Gerald themed book.
Their books are so simple, yet they are so rich in literacy.
That’s why they are beloved by all preschoolers.
What are some of the ways to fill this Easter basket to promote literacy?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
Don’t forget the Pigeon with this basket!
What better idea for an easy Easter basket than no other than a Piggie and Gerald themed book.
Their books are so simple, yet they are so rich in literacy.
That’s why they are beloved by all preschoolers.
What are some of the ways to fill this Easter basket to promote literacy?
What can you do to promote literacy with your preschool child?
- Read some of Piggie and Gerald's stories.
- Piggie and Gerald books are all about dialogue, so have a puppet show with your preschooler!
- Teach your kids about different emotions, problem-solving, and hard situations with role-playing.
Don’t forget the Pigeon with this basket!
That’s a wrap.
With these fun and easy Easter basket ideas, your preschoolers will have a blast reading and exploring new ways to engage with books.
You, my lazy mom, will sit back and enjoy the fact that you didn’t spend hours and money crafting the perfect basket only for it to be destroyed in less than 5 seconds on Easter morning.
And your little one’s teeth and your wallet will take you later at the next trip to the dentist!
With these fun and easy Easter basket ideas, your preschoolers will have a blast reading and exploring new ways to engage with books.
You, my lazy mom, will sit back and enjoy the fact that you didn’t spend hours and money crafting the perfect basket only for it to be destroyed in less than 5 seconds on Easter morning.
And your little one’s teeth and your wallet will take you later at the next trip to the dentist!
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Lauren Barrett is a mult-ipassionate mom working to help all parents become their best selves and build positive relationships with their kids through mindful parenting. She has a degree in deaf education and a Master’s in Reading Education. She is a high school teacher of the Deaf and hard-of-hearing by day, a cross country coach by the afternoon, a writer/author by her son's nap times, and a full time mom to an amazing toddler. Lauren is a 2x author of the Add One-A-Day 30 Day Challenge and children's book, Henry's Hiccups, a blogger at Lauren Barrett Writes, and has been published on sites like A Fine Parent, Pregnant Chicken, Pop Sugar, Her View From Home, and Scary Mommy. She loves her faith, running, visiting MLB stadiums with her husband, chocolate, scrapbooking, pretending she would actually do well on the Amazing Race, re-watching The Office, listening to Bobby Bones, and helping out all moms. She lives in North Carolina with her husband, James, and son, Henry. Follow her on Instagram and get her free parenting checklists.
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